- Don't talk to strangers
- If you're meeting someone off the internet, bring a friend, and meet in a public area
- Don't get into a stranger's car
1) I have never met him before... Why should I get into his car?
2)Where is this somewhere?
Again, these are just a few questions that have come to mind since I've begun on this beautiful journey... But it just makes me wonder... Have I lost my ability to take caution? Does the taboo of being a SB, and the need to keep our meetings private make trusting these strangers any more safe?
I'm not knocking anyone down, I'm simply asking for advice... I understand that it's just like meeting anyone in a bar, or at school... You'd get into a car, to go on a date with a guy you met there, right? But what is it about meeitng men online, that raises the red flags?
LADIES... I call upon you... My (SCABIW) SB Council of Amazingly Beautiful and Intelligent Women... Let me know, of the safety precautions you take when meeting your POT SDs. If anything, God forbid, has happened to you... Advice or tips... I think it's important to discuss... because we value our lives, and need to be safe...
-CCSB
"I understand that it's just like meeting anyone in a bar, or at school... You'd get into a car, to go on a date with a guy you met there, right?" -- NO haha. I never get into stranger's cars. I always meet them places until I am comfortable. My last boyfriend (just a regular guy) dated me for 4 months and never knew where I lived. That's how secretive I am because if things go sour...oh best believe it can get REAL sour. I was raped in college by someone I knew very well, so if someone I trust can do something like that...imagine someone who doesn't know me at all might be willing to do. I always carry a small pocket knife in my purse and sometimes mace (careful that it doesn't get used on you). Always think about safety, especially with people with money and/or power who have the capability to erase you.
ReplyDeleteInteresting post hun, but personally I do not think you should just forget about all of the things that you where told. Safety and YOUR SECURITY is the first thing that you should think about before anything else. If it is a first meeting then I'd highly advise you to meet in a public place and if he asks if he can pick you up AT YOUR HOUSE ON THE FIRST MEETING then think it through critically because if he knows where you live, he can be randomly tempted to show up unexpected. So yeah, just always take your own safety into consideration before anything.
ReplyDeleteAnd Creole, I am really sorry about what happened to you. Some people really are just EVIL. xo
NEVER put anything before your own safety! Especially in the Sugar World there are a lot of pervy men who are waiting to pounce on the numerous naive girls who come into the Sugar World forgetting everything they were taught regarding safety.
ReplyDeleteRun names and all info through Google, emails and such through Pipl.com, pics through Tineye.com, so on & so forth.
*Don't talk to strangers:
Now, let's be honest if you TRULY followed that rule you wouldn't get very far in life. The waiter who needs to take your order, the bagger who wants to know paper or plastic, the kid behind you who wants to borrow a pencil, etc.
*If you're meeting someone off the internet, bring a friend, and meet in a public area:
Def meet in a public place, and also tell a RL friend contact info of the Pot and where you are going or a SB Buddy you make online. Plus, check-in via phone calls or text with your friend/buddy.
*Don't get into a stranger's car:
This is obvi up to your own discretion.
But, what I read in a lot of newbie's blogs right before they explained how something went horribly wrong is when they say "Something didn't feel right, but I went along anyway," "I got a weird feeling, but..." Believe in your own gut instincts that are screaming either "Warning, Warning," or "DANGER AHEAD!"