***So, I am so new to this all, but everyday I am getting more and more interested in the life of it all... So I set up an acct on SD.com, and in two weeks, I've been chatting with 2 prospects... I have set up a date with
Mr SJP. 38, and running his own trading system company... I'm not picky, but from his photos, he's not the best looking guy in the world. His voice, though, made him so much cuter... We talked, and set up a date for this coming Friday... Very casual... Of course I'll dress it up a little for him... He caught that I spoke French, and told me some very naughty things. The only thing is that he asked about my terms on the agreement. I seriously freaked out, and simply told him that I was more into getting to know him--building chemistry first... Idk...
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How am I supposed to get it out there without sounding harsh, and not classy??? Please, ladies, let me know. Time's running out, and he seriously wants to know...
I've got some questions about it all...
- What should I wear to a casual date...? It's going to be at a coffee shop...
- How do I act around him? I mean, I want him to know I'm into him, right? Just help me here...
- How do I let him know how much I want? Is it only a weekly, or monthly allowance... What about gifts, etc... a wishlist... Am I going to fast for this being my first date?
Ladies, he's my first potential SD, and he seems easy to get along with--over the phone. But I'd hate for nerves and lack of knowledge to hide my true, spunky, cute wit and good looks. Please, I'm so looking for answers.
***Also, I've tried to comment on a few pages, but something about the Google word verification thing isn't working for me... How can I reach out to you ladies for help???
-CCSB
I think you did the right thing by saying you wanted to get to know him better on the first date. I don't like talking about money on the first date. Each potential is different. The seasoned ones aren't bothered by what you're asking for and want to know up front. Some are sensitive and don't want to feel like ATMs...and others are newbies and don't have a clue how it works. I'd let him know that I wanted a monthly allowance...but am open to a weekly allowance. Instead of throwing out a price, I just tell them roughly what my expenses mount up to and what I'd need my allowance for. That way it feels like help and not a sale for them. But most of all, relax, be yourself. If you're not comfortable...listen to your gut. I'm just getting started too, and the potentials are lined up out the door. Be a little picky, but with reason. If this one doesn't bite the bait, on to the next one!
ReplyDeleteThank you so mmuch.... You have no idea how badly I've been trying to contact you... lol... I absolutely love your blog... Your tips, etc... Thank you...
ReplyDeleteBut how should I start thinking about my expenses? I was thinking of writing everything down... Cell phone bill, pocket money, little things I wanted to save for... etc... I am not sure what to put in my expenses for him...
***Also, I can't see to leave a comment on any of your posts... I type the comment, and when it comes for word verification, I can't see the box to type the captcha in... IDK... but thanks for reaching out to me... It means a lot...
ReplyDeleteHmm I have to check out why the captcha thing is messed up. We may have to exchange contact info. Girl you should hear the juice that I don't write about lol. But anyways, calculate all of your expenses. I wrote all of mine down. To save what I want, pay my monthly bills, and pay down my student loans...I need about $5,000 a month. That could mean one good sugar daddy (which is hard to find with that kind of budget), 2 sugar daddies who can afford $2,500 a piece...or quite possibly 3. I prefer to stick to 2 because this feels like a full time job, so I'd like to keep things as simple as possible. That's what **I** need. What I WANT...is $10,000 a month. For that, I need to find me a millionaire...which I have a date with one tonight ;-* My friend is your age and is looking for $1,000 - $3,000 a month...her needs are different than mine. But that gives you an idea of what other sugars are asking. From stories, I've heard of sugars giving up the goods for $100 bucks...which is not sugary at all...more like hookerish. Analyze what kind of income your POT realistically has, his expenses (does he have kids, multiple homes?), and at least see if he can meet your minimum need if not the maximum.
ReplyDeleteMy comment thing should be fixed too btw, thanks for letting me know!
ReplyDelete1) Well I assume that in the US right now it's warmish and definitely not winter. How about a cute day dress, cute shoes and minimal accessories, just dress it down a little casual but make sure you look cute :)
ReplyDelete2) Don't be too obvious with it, men want what they can not have. Be yourself but make sure that you up your game a little so that he knows that you are worth his time and all. It's best to give off little hints as-well but as I said, don't make it too obvious (wouldn't want his head to get overinflated)
3) I agree with Creole on this one, do make sure you calculate your own bills and things that you may need, (would be great to save at least a quarter of what you receive though) and also take his earnings and expenses into account too.
And Creole - I have also tried to comment on some of your posts, I love your blog but unfortunately, I was unable to do so.
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Chocolate Chip I hope it goes/went well. xo
Thank you so much Unknown... It's in a couple of days, and it's all I can think about... I have finals to take for summer classes, and I'm having a hard time focusing on my calculus... lol...
ReplyDeleteI will let you all know exactly how it goes. And I hope my nerves don't get the best of me. I will write down everything I'm needing, and go from there...