So, after what seemed like forever... I had my first date with Mr Traveler...
I introduced him, a while ago... some time in December, I think... We've been emailing each other everyday, at least 5x a day since then... It felt nice... I was hooked to it... I'd check my email to see his message... I'd write back and then wait some more... I figured, why not take time to build a rapport??? I mean, if the guy feels he knows me, and likes me... then wouldn't he want to gift me more??? If he's getting the attention, then he'll want to reward me...???
Anyway, he was in NYC for a couple days, for work, and it was finally the time... We met at his hotel bar... I didn't know what to expect... I mean, I'd seen his photos, but they're almost never accurate anymore... I wouldn't use the word "handsome"... But he wasn't plain out ugly... In the dim lighting, he was-- ok...
Beer belly, sneakers, and jeans... I could tell he was nervous, anxious and a bit self-conscious about his dress... But I reassured him, it was fine... We sat at the bar for about 2 hours... I swore he was talking so loud, it was scary... I kept fearing that the group of women sitting nearby knew what expected from this arrangement as well...
I'd been battling a fever all weekend, and my throat was sore... I ordered a Manhattan, and it soothed my throat a bit... But I wasn't in the mood for drinking...
In our last couple of emails... He closed off with info on where he was staying... And I ended with my # and my paypal email... He replied so quickly... "Why'd you give me your paypal? Were you expecting something?" Of course I was!!! You think I shower you with all of this time and attention because you're a great person...???
I was nervous, but so glad that I made that move--and made the hint... After we left the bar, we headed up to his hotel room, for him to get his coat... He wanted to walk me to the subway... He had 3 dozen roses waiting for me, and a little bag stuffed with tissue paper... I'm so not good with surprises... It was sweet...
Inside, there were some chocolates... and some Visa gift cards... I gave him a nice hug, and we headed for the door... The walk to the train, was nice and relaxing... The chill in the air woke me up ((I'd had a long day)) and the bright lights of the city made the air exciting and optimistic...
He gave me a kiss on the cheek, and I hopped and skipped on down the steps into the subway...
Okay... So, he lives out of state, and can't make it to NYC often to meet... He can. however, meet some place else more frequently... He wants to meet again, but this time in another state... He's already asked if I wouldn't mind going out there, for dinner, and back, next week... I have some reservations:
- I've never traveled out of state for someone... Well, I did, with Mr SJP... but... that wasn't so far...
- I'll need to make sure it's an all expenses-paid trip...
- I don't know it I'm comfortable with the idea of it. Where would we meet? What would we do?
- I'd hope he wouldn't have sex on his mind as something to happen... Sooo not happening...
Let me know, Sugar Council...
Think I should take the trip...??? It's in a week's time... I don't know...
Till next time...
-CCSB
Is he aware that sex isnt on the table?
ReplyDeleteHe may want sex. If you go on any trip with him no matter how long, you should get your own (hotel) room. You should definitely talk about with him.
ReplyDeleteOh any there's tons of stuff to do in NY. Music and food festivals, museums, tours, theme parks, lounges, sport events (football or basketball) and shopping lol
Oh and ALWAYS make sure you have enough money (just in case) don't go ANYWHERE BROKE!!!
and get some mace to...it's New York right? lol I'm just kidding, but no really get some mace on a keychain or something like that.
ReplyDeletePretty good advice so far.
ReplyDeleteHe will be expecting sex, as you have probably guessed. Or at least, hoping for it. So if you are not willing to engage, maybe you should warn him before hand, just to set the record straight. But do it in a covert and tactful way.
Also, have a Plan B in mind, i.e. if things go really bad what do you do. What is the escape route?
Where is this meeting taking place by the way?
David any advice on covert/tactful way? That will still keep him in a good mood?
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ReplyDeleteYou could start talking , in a casual way, abut th realtionship that you are about to begin. what are the mutual expectations, how do you se it developing if you like each other and continue your visits, how fast (or slow) do you want it to go etc. don't be too bossy because he may react badly to that. So be firm but polite. You could also probe more personal quesion like: 'oh have you been intimate with a younger woman' etc. The obejctive is to see behavioral patterns and determine if this i a 'target rich environment like they used to say in the army. Hope this helps.
I let him know that 1) I wouldn't be able to go... It's really short notice... And since we've only met yesterday, I think it's a bit early in the relationship...
ReplyDelete2) that sex wouldn't be on the table for a while... That if it were to happen, it would have to completely natural...
Being that I don't find him physically attractive at all, I don't see that ever happening... but who knows..
He asked, and asked, and begged, and asked some more... Even offered me get me my own room... It didn't work... Why would I need my own room for a one day affair???
My answer was no...
But thank you everyone for your advice so far...
Hey whatever happened to Mr. Capoeira? I have my theory, but do tell...
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