If At First You Don't Suceed...

Aaliyah sang it best... My date with Mr SJP--I was so excited about it... And nothing...

I sent him an email, expressing my regards, and such... And he told me "I was there at 7pm, and I waited 30 minutes for you... I was very angry"...

When I read that I 1)laughed 2)shook my head...

The poor guy waited for me... But our date was scheduled for 8PM... He was so sorry and sent tons of apologies, etc... So, lucky for me... We're trying this again, and this time... I'm not letting the time get in the way... Not only will I be checking in the day before, but the day of, and a few hours before the date... I really did like him too...

We have set our next rendezvous for this coming Tuesday evening... Only thing is, he wants me to come to Jersey City... I live in NYC... Some say it isn't far from there, but it's where I'm going from there that's got me concerned... So, I'm supposed to ride the train out to Jersey, and then what? Get in your car? I don't think so... My last blog was just about these safety precautions... How do you ladies think I should go forth with this... I'll be so out of my way, and definitely not knowing the area... I'm going to ask what he has in mind, so I can find directions myself, but it just makes me wonder a bit... Let me know your thoughts, ladies...

-CCSB

Late, For a Very Important Date...

***Big Sigh***

So, I rushed on home from work... I pulled 9+ hours today, and somehow,y my boss didn't pay anyone, so I was already kind of off... Then, I had to stay an extra 45 minutes at work... Every one I was counting... I didn't want to be late for my first date with Mr SJP... I practically ran home, and changed. Called my friend over ((I decided to bring her with me.. for safety... She wouldn't be sitting with us, but just around--inconspicuously))...

I called, and spoke to Mr SJP the night before, to confirm, and he simply told me to call him an hour before I left to meet him... The meeting time was 8pm...

Not only was it ridiculously humid, but, somehow, torrential rains came down to wash the earth... I sucked it up, grabbed a HUGE umbrella and ran out in my mini skirt...

I nearly fell into a swimming pool of nasty NYC sewage water, and finally got on the train, to head to the city to him...

I called..... ...... ...... No answer... I shrugged it off.... Maybe he was just on his way...
I called, again... ... ... Still, no answer... Hmm... I thought... Hmmm...
I called, 5 more times.... .... .... and got no answer from him.
No text message, no voicemail... Suddenly, this Mr SJP was a figment of my imagination.

My train got delayed a few minutes, and I ended up being 26 minutes late. When I got to the coffee shop, there was no one there that fit his description... I sat, and waited... and called, and hung up, and waited...

Eventually, I gave up hope, defeated, and embarrassed... Mr SJP had stood me up... Or maybe, he didn't like late-comers... I was so confused... and defeated... and embarrassed... I was so excited to meet him...

I left the coffee shop, now in the city, with no plans, and a friend who'd witnessed my epic fail... We went to a deli, and ordered some food... And I thought... "Hmmm... let's try..."

I called another pot SD, that I knew worked nearby, and he picked up almost immediately. I asked him if he was free, and he was so excited to be meeting me... I admit, I put him on the spot, but I was feeling the burn from the first guy... He told me to "hang out for 30 min or so and he'd come to get me..."...

So, i waited... and ate... and sighed... and called Mr SJP again... to no prevail... And I sighed, and waited... The time somehow passed from 9-~10 pm... How did 30 minutes turn into never...???

Fact is, I got stood up... twice, in one night... by two pot SDs, that I'd never met before... Around 1am, when I was nearing my home on the train, I got a message from this pot SD... He apologized for not following through, and blamed it on a dead phone...

Ladies... *sigh*

I know this better be the worst it gets... I am s bummed about tonight...

-A sad CCSB

Safety PreCaution : Does it Ever Occur To You...???

I am fairly new to this entire experience, and though I am seriously enjoying myself, I have to wonder... Have I, or must I let go of all those things my parents taught me when I was young...???

• Don't talk to strangers
• If you're meeting someone off the internet, bring a friend, and meet in a public area
• Don't get into a stranger's car

Those are just a few, but already I feel as though I've thrown some out of the window... For instance, one of my POT SD's has offered to pick me up to take me somewhere...
1) I have never met him before... Why should I get into his car?
2)Where is this somewhere?


Again, these are just a few questions that have come to mind since I've begun on this beautiful journey... But it just makes me wonder... Have I lost my ability to take caution? Does the taboo of being a SB, and the need to keep our meetings private make trusting these strangers any more safe?

I'm not knocking anyone down, I'm simply asking for advice... I understand that it's just like meeting anyone in a bar, or at school... You'd get into a car, to go on a date with a guy you met there, right? But what is it about meeitng men online, that raises the red flags?


LADIES... I call upon you... My (SCABIW) SB Council of Amazingly Beautiful and Intelligent Women... Let me know, of the safety precautions you take when meeting your POT SDs. If anything, God forbid, has happened to you... Advice or tips... I think it's important to discuss... because we value our lives, and need to be safe...


-CCSB

Crossing The Lines

I got an offer from a pot SD... He came out, upfront and asked me to "audition" sexually, to me his SB. He said he was more than gracious with gifts, and allowance... Naturally, it had be quite taken aback... I feared this was nearing the lines of escorting... At first, I figured I'd lead him on, just collecting as I went, but Mr Vegas (that's what he insisted I call him) had other plans in mind...

He called me earlier tonight, through my Google Voice #, and quickly expressed how he only wanted me for sex... He kept telling me how much people thought him to be handsome... He bragged about his job, and how important he was. Mr Vegas blatantly asked me to do the following:

1. Tell him how many sexual partners I'd had (I lied...)
2. Meet him in midtown Manhattan
3. Get in his amazing company car
4. Have a few drinks in this company car--as we would ride to a disclosed area
5. Make sure to specifically wear red lingerie, and fishnets... -_-
6. "Have fun" with him for a few hours
7. Take a train back into NYC and then to my home

And this jackass wants all of this done for a (and I quote) "few hundred dollars"...

Oh lord... I simply told the ass I'd accept nothing lower than $5k... He flipped... I bid him a great night, and that was that...

***Ladies, I am not opposed to sex with a SD, but simply having sex for less than I'd make at my regular, part-time job is simply out of the question...

-CCSB

Off To A Great Start

Being that I've only started my new career less than a month ago, I'd say I'm doing quite well... I'm learning something new everyday, and am surrounded by a great support system...

Be that as it may, I've got news... A new POT.... Mr Samoyed.... ((He's got the cutest little Samoyed dog--I fell in love with her right away))... Met him on SD.com. It wasn't even a real connection right away... His profile was bare, with just the basics... I shot him and email, and WHAM! There he was, in my personal email... ((I just changed my name and info, too--whew!))

Mr Samoyed

He's 36, slim, and balding... But he's not too bad on the eyes... Says he's from Australia... and he loves black women... Woot Woot!!! We've been playing tag through emails, and I think we'd hit it off well... Lucky for me, he came out with it, and said he wasn't looking for a relationship... I told him what I wanted... what I didn't want... But he offered something even better... Less commitment, for more $$ ((I never knew it'd be so simple))... He's coming down to NYC in two weeks. He's requested that I leave an entir week scheduled for me, and he's offering double (in that week), what I asked for monthly... uh... Yeah... lol...

So that gives me time to practice with Mr SJP for a bit... *Don't forget, ladies, my first date with him is tomorrow, evening... Still fretting about it... Nervous... But feeling better because you all are helping me out...

I took Creole's advice and got myself a LBB... And the DIY maven in me just had to do something with the ugly cover it had before...

Before

After

-CCSB

Box o Sweets....

I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU to the women who have reached out to help me... You ladies are so sugary sweet... I only hope that we continue to get close and learn from one another...

My First Ever Pot

***So, I am so new to this all, but everyday I am getting more and more interested in the life of it all... So I set up an acct on SD.com, and in two weeks, I've been chatting with 2 prospects... I have set up a date with Mr SJP. 38, and running his own trading system company... I'm not picky, but from his photos, he's not the best looking guy in the world. His voice, though, made him so much cuter... We talked, and set up a date for this coming Friday... Very casual... Of course I'll dress it up a little for him... He caught that I spoke French, and told me some very naughty things. The only thing is that he asked about my terms on the agreement. I seriously freaked out, and simply told him that I was more into getting to know him--building chemistry first... Idk...

Mr SJP

How am I supposed to get it out there without sounding harsh, and not classy??? Please, ladies, let me know. Time's running out, and he seriously wants to know...

I've got some questions about it all...

1. What should I wear to a casual date...? It's going to be at a coffee shop...
2. How do I act around him? I mean, I want him to know I'm into him, right? Just help me here...
3. How do I let him know how much I want? Is it only a weekly, or monthly allowance... What about gifts, etc... a wishlist... Am I going to fast for this being my first date?

Ladies, he's my first potential SD, and he seems easy to get along with--over the phone. But I'd hate for nerves and lack of knowledge to hide my true, spunky, cute wit and good looks. Please, I'm so looking for answers.

***Also, I've tried to comment on a few pages, but something about the Google word verification thing isn't working for me... How can I reach out to you ladies for help???


-CCSB

Welcome & Thank you

So, hello, ladies.... You all have been so helpful in my quest to become a SB... I decided, I'd create another blog just for it... ((please to ignore the horrible layout for now--i will get on that)). But so far, I've been addicted to the idea of being a sugar babe for about 2 months now... I'm 21, and in college... I'm also working 2 jobs, on top of all of my other extra curricular activities. Living at home just ices my cupcake...
I'd love some excitement, the independence ((from my folks)), and best of all--the SUGAH!!!

I've set up an account on SD.com and am thinking about other sites for now. I havent gotten much response. But I'm putting in the work...

I actually have a potential date with a pot this coming Friday... I know usually one isn't attracted to these guys, but he really isn't attractive. I think I'm too fresh to be picky, you know...

Taking summer classes for now, and it's my last week, so after Thursday, I'll be free to put 100% into this... Thanks in advance for all the advice...

-CCSB