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It's back to school for my sweet, chocolate ass...
I'm back to crowded hallways, starving in the library, long lines, and sleepless nights... But it's what I've got to do...

Basically, I'm the "all achiever"... Thus, I'm sticking my head in anything and everything I can possibly get into. I'm one of the captains of my college's competitive cheer squad, on the tennis team, in the pre med club, french club, art club, student activities club... I'm working two jobs, and looking for another, and finally I've decided to load myself with 18 credits for the semester (the maximum). Saying "I'll be busy" would definitely be an understatement. But, this is where, and how I thrive. Somehow, I just do well, with all the pressure... And it'll give me a break from my SB goals...

Not to say that I've let it go, because I haven't, but I think now, that this should be good for me...I need to firstly get me under control, before I go tackling this... I need to have only the best head on my shoulders, so I can be at my best when trying to snag me a good SD... I have been searching still... But not as viciously as before... I've signed up for a few more sites, but I'm taking it slow... I've only been checking my email 1x a day... compared to the 15-20x a day I used to...

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I have, however, been on 7 dates in the past week... Not with Pots... but with guys that I figure I'll practice on in the meantime... I've decided to take some advice from the lovely Creole, and see if I can work my magic on guys closer to my age... If I can get them to get me things, then I'll be all the more ready to get what I want from my future SDs...

Firstly, the TruckDriver... Simple huh... lol... I met him parhazard, in a cab on the way home, and he got my number... We went out last week, and he took me to a nice, chic lounge/pool hall... He's older, 36, but I wasn't phased by that at all... He's tall, chocolatey dark, and very much handsome... Shaved head, and a strong back... Single, and no kids... I had a great time with him, but I got a little inkling that he was a little too interested in my body, and not my mind... So I'm going to keep him on a long leash... Maybe, I can get him to pay for my driving test... It's coming up soon, and he offered to give me a few lessons in his nice Audi...

Next we have BrownEyes... I met him at the club, and gave him my Google Voice # when he asked... Surprisingly, he turned out to be a great couple of dates... We went to eat at a sushi place near me... ((my first time with sushi--can't say I love it)) He saw me pushing the food around, and offered to take me to a great burger place... I loved it... He's easy going, and well-off for his age... Only 28... But super polite, and not creepy in any way... I marked him off as a creeper because I met him at the club... We'll see his true stripes of spots soon...
We went on a second date to the movies... That just happened to be by the mall... I offered to pick a movie, and purposely chose one that was a couple hours off... Hence, we had nothing to do but walk around the mall... I stopped into an ALDO, and tried some shoes on... Ladies... BrownEyes liked them so much, he paid for them... They weren't expensive Louboutins, but that made my day... $60 shoes... I'll take any pair of shoes for free... I was so giddy afterwards... The movie was a bore, I'd seen Crazy, Stupid, Love so many times already... On my way home, I gave BrownEyes a little kiss on the cheek, and practically skipped on home... New shoes in hand...

I had another date with another guy, HeadHunter... He actually works at the same hospital my mother works in... but in Human Resources... ((I've already inquired for a position)) He's 36, and cute... Met him on CL.com which is really different for me. Super corn ball, and it's so cute... He took me to Central Park and we walked around a bit... ((thank the Lawd I had flats on))... The stroll was nice, easy going, and it was nice not eating for a change... HeadHunter says he was raised by his 6 older sisters and I was afraid he could read me completely... Afterwards, we went to the wax Museum, on 42nd, and had a blast posing and taking pics with the figures... It was fun, and relaxing to be myself... ((but not all of myself))... I didn't get anything but money for a cab ride back home... But I'll keep him around...

***Going out on these dates were a good idea for me... Just when I was doubting my natural, quick wit, charm, and beauty... they've reminded me that if I don't have confidence in myself... No guy... let alone a SD will...

-CCSB

Dry Spell...

I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave around, and cast beautiful, plentiful showers of sugar upon sugar land...

...Unfortunately for me, this is far from ever happening...

After my last date, with Mr Fix-It, it seems I have less of a drive to fight for this... Perhaps it's because my RealLife id  kicking in... I have tennis practice 6 days a week, for 5 hours a day... And then cheerleading (I am a competitive cheer gal) butts itself into my schedule... That's almost like a part-time job in itself... I'm super tired, and busy... Not to mention, school starts in a couple of days...

*sigh*

It's just a lot... But I don't want to leave Candy Land... I love everything it has to offer, and the excitement. The fact that it's something new... The wonderful and supportive women out there...

I've been trying...but it seems I'm having poor luck in finding anyone lately... No one seems interested... I'm taking the initiative in messaging people... But not much of a bite... It makes me think, perhaps my profile needs an updating... I don't know... I'm just down in the dumps...

I'm also looking for new sites to check out... Any options, let me know...

But, yes... It's all dry and baron here... This cookie needs some warm, sweet milk...

-CCSB

Cump Change: Can't Be Serious...

SO yesterday, was my first date with Mr Fix-It... He was excited... I was tired... A long day at work, I was looking to unwind, and finally get my hands on some sugar... Also, a close friend of mine was celebrating a birthday at a club, and I had to attend afterwards...

I got dressed, and walked over to a friend's house... Waited there for him, and when he called, I headed outside to meet this POT SD. Problem #1: His car looked nothing extravagant. I know not all SDs have money oozing from their pores, but I was expecting more than I saw... Couldn't even take it to the car wash...??? In the car, I asked if he'd mind, driving me to the other location instead of my house... He agreed... So, I told my ride to go on without me. Nonetheless, we rode on to the location, which was packed on a Friday night... I was nervous, but figured, "Hey, no need to stress... I look good..." ((which I did)).

Walking in was a spectacle on its own... People, black & white, old & young, snapped their heads in our direction and I could feel all their eyes burning into my skin... Here we were, an older caucasian gentleman and a thick, beautiful black woman holding hands together--I can only imagine what they thought of us... Problem #2: Every time there was another person near, Mr Fix-It would grab me close and make a show... I mean, I understand wanting to show me off, but it was a little excessive... The server came to me, and asked if I wanted a drink, and before I could respond, my POT grabbed my hand, and pulled me away--ordering what he assumed I wanted...

We played pool for a little under two hours, and chatted flirtatiously... I'd never played before but after the first game, and a after knocking balls off of the table, I got the hang of it. Mr Fix-It was in awe at how quickly I figured out how to create angles, and bank balls... He also couldn't take his eyes off of me...

Eventually, we got to "the talk"... I already knew that he had two children, both of whom he was paying child support for, and since he was relatively a nice guy--and didn't have that creeper feel about him--I decided to drop my set price down...SIGNIFICANTLY... When I told him my requests... I could feel him drawing away... He simply told me that he paid just as much in child support for each child, and proceeded to go down his monthly list of expenses he already had... I knodded and "uh-huhed" but didn't really care... If he wanted my company, I wasn't going to go any lower... The spark we had on the date had floated out of the building... Mr Fix-It was quiet, and I could tell he wanted the arrangement, but was fighting himself about my allowance. He eventually came out and admitted that he wouldn't be able to afford that. I knodded, and was polite... the whole... "We can still talk, and such"... I was livid on the inside, I had a few things I needed him to pay for for the month, and now this???

Problem #3: Mr Fix-It slowly got back into the date, and suggested that I hold up my end of the bargain, for not even an allowance... But just the minimum financial support... -_-
He was serious... So? Now I have to pretend to like you, let you hold my hand, and hold me close, inhaling your disgusting cigarette odor, and staring at your bad teeth and beer belly, when I could be going home with the server ((who was gorgeous, btw))... and do it for free?!?!?!
**Have to quote Creole here "My time is precious and if I wanted to give it away for free I'd go find a hot young sexy muscular Brazilian or Italian guy to lick chocolate off my body…not some old fuddy duddy married man."

On the drive back, I danced around the idea of having him pay for the basics... But I couldn't swallow the idea of giving him the premium for paying practically nothing... If he wanted all of me...my time, and affection, he'd have to give all I wanted. I gave Mr Fix-It the directions to the party, I was supposed to head over to... It was in the city...

Problem #4: Mr Fix-It looked at me, and said "I'm not driving you into the city..." I was shocked... Now, I had no way into the city, and I HAD to be there within the hour. I called a cab. He asked me if everything was alright, but I was already over him... I told him, I needed $50 for a cab to the city, and he practically jumped out of his seat. WTF?! He pulled out a limp, old leather wallet.... faded, and patchy... and fumbled around with some singles, fives, and some ((I swear)) coins... I sat there and shook my head... He pulled out a $100 and I relaxed a bit... Ready to accept it, but Mr Fix-It was hesitant... He went on about having not much on him... and I thought "That's why the great God invented the ATM--hello?" Fumbling around, and checking his lint filled pockets, I watched him... Mr Fix-It refused to give me the $100, and instead, handed me a crumpled $13... I was shocked, but tried to maintain my composure. He was dead serious... He apologized, and talked about something, but all I heard was "blah blah blah... I'm broke... blah, balding, blah..."

Problem #5: When he pulled up to my corner, He turned off the car... I don't know why, since I had to go... He leaned over and tried to kiss me...He got a peck on my cheek... This n***a then had the nerve to ask for another, "with tongue". Mr Fix-It was fucking out of his mind... Firstly, you can't afford my already lowered allowance asking... Then you can't even pay for my cab fare--AFTER YOU ALREADT AGREED TO TAKE ME TO THE PARTY!!! And then you think you deserve to slip anything of yours inside of me... Get the fuck out of here...

I left the car, and waited for my cab... Not only did I get there late, but I ended up having to pay for my admission to the club, and then pay for my cab... This date, if anything cost me. Since when was this how it was supposed to work...?

Mr Fix-It

Mr Fix-It has definitely lost it with me, but I'm going to hold on, just a bit, to see if he'll pay for a quick fix... After that... His ass is Grass!!!!

Ladies... smfh... lol

-CCSB

Sugar Dating & The Rules of Exclusivity...

Mr FixIt

One of my main POTs, Mr FixIt, has been on my mind as of lately... He's a very kind man, and seems like a genuine and great guy... However, there's something telling me that he's got another side to show...

Mr FixIt has already told me how he feels about exclusivity... He feels that if I am his SB, then he should be the ONLY man of interest in my life. He literally calls me everyday--somtimes 2-3 times a day... I understand that he may be lonely, or just need someone to talk to--and with that, I am alright... But he often asks what my day will be consisting of... Who'll I'll be spending time with... When I'll be back home, etc...

I feel that these questions are questions no SD should be asking me... Especially since we've already established and agreed on the term that this would be a NoStrings relationship...

An example: I was on the phone, listening to Mr FixIt talk about his day, when I got another incoming call... I excused myself, to asnwer it, and found out that it was one of the guys I am dating on the side... I really wanted to chat with him, so I clicked over to Mr FixIt, and said I was sorry... That I had to take the call, and that I'd call him back... He said it was alright, but then asked me who it was... If it was a guy... and if he was important to me... He then reminded me that it was he who would be paying for my needs, and not the guy I was hanging up on him for...

I know that some SDs want exclusivity, but I doubt I can do that... Currently, I'm seeing about 3-4 different people, and even if Mr FixIt supported me in everyway, I wouldn't want to stop seeing those other guys... Am I wrong to want a life outside of out relationship? or must I conform to his rules for his sugar...???

-CCSB

New POTs and Shaking It Up...

So, with the help of all you lovelies.... I've got off to a great start to my SB career... I've set up some profiles on a number of sites, I've chatted a bit with, and I've dated a few potentials...

Saturday night, I had a movie date night with my non-SB best friend... ((not that I have a SB-best friend)) I had no dates planned, and wanted to let it rest... Spending hours emailing potentials, and reading up on blogs is almost like being in school... Honestly... I'm trying to learn as much as possible, so I'm reading tons... Sometimes for hours at a time... Then trying to apply it to my situations...

But yes, I had a date night with my girl, and we headed off to the movies to see Crazy,Stupid,Love... First and lastly, Ryan Gosling is and has always been on my list of celebrity f***s... ((what, I have a sex drive, and he's up on my list...))

Don't we wish our Pots could look like this???
Anyway, I had a great time, and it was seriously a great way to let go of the SB double life for a few hours... That night, I even met a guy in the cab ride home, and scored his number... He is super cute, and has a mean body... A little older, but since I've been chatting it up with these near ancient POTs, it was no biggie... He also get's my witty, dry sense of humor, and has a great smile... It was nice, talking to a normal guy, and just thinking "Oh, he's cute..." and not "I wonder if he'll give me an allowance"...


***Back to the Confections...
I've decided to let go the two POTs I went out with last week... Both, Mr SJP and Mr Boondocks... Neither of them could live up to the name Sugar Daddy for different reasons... As I read, understand, and experience more about this world, I am building more of a confidence about myself--what I want, what I expect, and what I will not tolerate... Mr SJP was let go because he didn't have simple manners... Not only did he disrespect me by feeling me up, but he was rude, and was simply looking for sex... CUT!!! Mr Boondocks didn't know what he wanted. He had a scheduled tennis date last night, but he didn't come through. I wasn't even surprised, actually... I was just upset, because I could have gone out with another POT... CUT!!!

New Potentials...
So, I have a few... they all seem promising, but we all know how hard it is to find a real SD that's also a gentleman and looking for a discreet relationship...

Mr Aussie

Thus, meet Mr Aussie...
Met him on a site, about two weeks ago, and we hit it off great right away... Pretty young, and from ((you guess it)) Australia... With him, there was great chemistry over the conversations, and we even discussed our wants out of the relationship... He's not in my location, and only hits up New York for about a week at a time for work... He's offering a great amount for my company most of the days of the week to dinners, drinks, shopping, etc... We're supposed to meet up sometime next week, when he's in town... And I'm super excited... He's not so bad on the eyes, and the age difference is not so bad... only 15 years...

Mr Architect

Mr Architect... is a little older, only 39, and is in my city... We've actually been playing tag through emails for a bit, and he's been persistent in meeting me, but I haven't been free to meet him because of other dates and such... He invited me to an upscale rooftop lounge/bar on Saturday, but I declined because I was nervous about heading out there... He didn't know the real reason, and simply agreed to something later on in the week... He's actually very handsome, and the conversations are easy going, and to the point. We haven't talked about a set arrangement yet, but he says he's open to the idea of an allowance... He'd like to meet first... No problem at all...

Mr Fix-It

Mr Fix-It has been my favorite of the three so far... He's older, 49, and a plumber... So far, he's been the most honest, and upfront about everything... He seems like an easy going and fun guy to be around... Not to mention one of his kids lives literally 1 block away from my home... ((ugh!!!)). He's not married, but pays child support to two different women... Despite this, he still is looking for a NSA, but exclusive SB/SD relationship... We talked for hours last night...
*I feel as though, as a SB, it's my job to make my SD or POTs see me as a person to go to to help them feel better... If that means talking to him about his problems, then so be it... By the passing of an hour, he'd told me about all of his life dramas over the last 3 years...But I could tell he felt better afterwards...
We have a date coming this Friday night at Dave and Busters... It should be fun, and not stressful... I can let my hair down, and loosen up a bit, while still feeling him out... Mr Fix-It has no problem with an allowance or shopping trips, etc... His only request was that "I make a list of the things I want from the mall because he hates shopping for more than two hours"...with that I can oblige...

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Along with a schedule filled with dates with POTs, I also have a few non SD dates this week. I don't know why, but  being a part-time SB has tapped into a confidence I left deep somewhere... and I'm loving it...

***I have a date on Thursday with another non SD guy... He's a marine, and my gosh... His body flexes on its own... It's beautiful... I can so see that happening (( :) ))... We have a dinner date for then, and I can't wait to casually touch his arm to feel it...

***Saturday night, I have a date with the guy I met in the cab ride after the movies... He's by far, the one I'm most excited to see, and I hope we hit it off better than we already do... Not to mention, he doesn't live far from me, so I won't have to take a bus, train, boat, and plane to get to him... ((a girl like me does not have a car))

I'm going to do my best, though, not to mix business with pleasure... These non SD guys will have to come second to my SDs as they won't be able to support me how I'm currently looking to be supported... I know some SBs have boyfriends on the side, but that only smells like disaster after a while, to me...

I know that was super long, but I wanted to post the movie info on Saturday when I got home, but I fell asleep on my laptop ((lol)), and I've been too busy to sit around and get to it...

A quick super thanks to the other SBs who don't mind sharing tips and help... I so think it's amazing of you to help me out with answering questions... It feels great to be able to talk to other women about this, and not feel the judgement at all... I love our little community...

**bisous**


-CCSB

First Dates... And How To Deal With Gropers...

So, ladies...

I took Creole's advice and double booked dates yesterday...

Date #1: Cheap and hot...
In the morning, I met up with a new Pot... I call Mr Boondocks...

Mr Boondocks

((If only he looked that good))... Met him on SD.com... He's quite young, and owns his own company... He's tall, and on a 1-10, about a 5... Mr Boondocks straight up looked like a thug... I walked up to him, smiling of course, but thought "Omgosh..." In NYC's 90+ degree weather, homeboy had on an old, white wifebeater, ridiculously long blue jean shorts, and ((wait for it)) Timberland boots...
He said he was cleaning out his old building because he's moved into another.... Whatever... Immediately, my eyes went to his hair... Brother was rocking thin cornrows--but his hairline was about 1 1/2" behind where it should have been... Also, he had at least 3 tattoos covering each square inch of his body. Where did you say you worked, again???
Since he was still at work, and we were meeting for only lunch, he took me to ((wait for it)) Golden Krust... I was in there, and it took me a while to figure out if it was really happening... I ordered a large oxtail (which I knew I wouldn't eat), and played with the food while he talked about his tattoos, his sister, etc etc... I could tell he was nervous... He hardly touched his food...
After about 15 minutes, we left, and I had about 45 minutes to spare before my next date--with Mr SJP... The two of us just walked around the city... We talked about our interests, and quickly realized that we both played tennis. I found that extremely hard to believe. Since we hadn't already discussed any arrangement terms, I figured I'd use this commonality to ease it in... We set our next date to be on the tennis courts, and I brought up the bet... If I beat him in a match (which I will), he takes me shopping... If not, he insisted I make him dinner... All I could think was "you better have a microwave-able meal waiting for you at home"...not happening... He was excited... Mr Boondocks walked me to the train, and paid for my ticket... I got on, and he called once I was gone...
Mr Boondocks explained that he had just gotten out of something long, that ended badly... I expressed sorrow and cut to the chase... I asked him what he was looking for, what he had planned for me and he simply said that he wants to get to know me, and support me...
Something in me is telling me that this guy is looking for a relationship... I will definitely have to make things more black and white between us two... Depending on our next date, I will make that happen.

Date #2: Creepy & A Groper
So, my second date was with Mr SJP... I got off the train, and waited for him... I would have minded the wait, but I used the 30 minutes to get myself together for it. I've gotten plenty of advice that getting there a little early is worth it... Boy, was I in for a surprise...
Mr SJP looked nothing like his photos... He was tall, thin, and really, quite unattractive... On a 1-10 scale, this Pot ranked a serious .5-1... Seriously...
((I've decided to change his photo because the one I had before did him way too much justice...

Mr SJP

Seriously, this is him, ladies... I tried my best not to let it show on my face... Immediately, I could feel his eyes all over me... I knew, that this date was going to be completely different than the first of the day... 
So, I got in his car... Earlier that day, I'd picked up some mace, and a little flip-knife... And we drove to (wait for it) Applebees...  *sigh* On the long drive there, we small talked... He explained that he was more than impressed with my physical appearance, but was a bit angry with me for the conversation we'd had earlier... Mr SJP also tossed the question around us having sex again... I swear ladies, I wanted to throw up in my mouth...

We got to the steakhouse, and I ordered a drink... He claimed he had an alcohol problem, and just got water... The meal was okay, again, I played around with my food, while he complained the whole time...

• It was not hot enough
• It was too spicy
• My plate had more on it than his
• The waiter was flirting with me
• It was too dark
• Why couldn't they change the channel on the damned televisions?

LOL! seriously, ladies... Seriously...
On the way back, he asked me about my sexual preferences, and I let him know... He said he was looking for a very sexually open SB... I however, was not that, but he insisted he could change my mind--and flashed a really crooked smile... All I could think was "if you have all of this money, why can't you get your teeth fixed, at the least?"
 Before I knew what hit me, I felt his ashy hand on my thigh... Ladies, I didn't know what to do... Next, he was pulling down my dress to see the color of my bra... I had to stop him... It was disgusting... Ugh!!!! The whole ride home, he literally begged me to go home with him... "But you're so hot.... Please...??? I'll give you double..." I couldn't believe it... Beyond gross...
Once we got back to the train, I hopped out, and turned my head before he could kiss me.... A smile, and a wave... and he was watching my ass practically run towards the escalator...


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Now, ladies... Help me out here...

1. I am not used to being with men that I am not physically attracted to. I know that I won't find a looker every time, but gosh... Not like this... How do you deal with this? Is it something I'll just have to learn to deal with? 
2. How do I break it onto Mr Boondocks that I am looking for a strict SD/SB relationship. That I don't want to be his girlfriend...? Without jeopardizing my chances at him sprinkling some sugar my way...??? Have you ever experienced a guy like this?
3. What to do with gropers... If he were anyone else, I would have called the police... Was he correct to have done this? Clearly Mr SJP wants sexual favors from me. But I know that there is no way...NO WAY i can have sex with him... no way... I also know that he won't give up any sugar until he gets mine... Should I let this go with him?

-CCSB

Mr SJP wants my Goodies...

I have a date tonight with a Pot... And we've talked about a financial arrangement... We agreed on everything... And then he comes out with a "You know I'm expecting sex on the first date, right?"

I simply said "I don't give up the sugar on the first date. It has to happen naturally".




And he responded with ((and I quote)) "U don't have sex on the first date. I don't give benefits on the first date"...
I asked "So, you're only interested in sex?" and he replies (an hour later)
  "I am not interested in solely sex. I want us to cluck and enjoy time together. However, I am interested in sex. LOL"...

*sigh*

I'm obviously not going tonight... But this is getting to be so frustrating... Sugar Babes aren't escorts... We're not prostitutes... So why must we get this nonsense.

Is it because I have yet to find a quality SD? What happened to just the dating part? I'm open to having fun, flirting, dating, dining... But sex??? You're on the wrong site buddy...

I knew this wouldn't be easy--finding a quality SD... I also didn't think that there'd be so many guys out there looking for easy, cheap p***y... I'm not down with giving up my diamonds for money... There has to be a connection... attraction... SOMETHING...

It's just really annoying, because I need some GUAP asap... Gonna hit up my other Pot and see what he's doing tonight...


***And what is it with this texting??? It drives me crazy... I prefer a short, sweet, to-the-point phone call... "Where are we going?" "What time?" "Where shall I meet you?" etc etc etc... Precise and done... Instead I get short, choppy, not consistent text messages that all amount to more confusion... "Hey" "Hi" "So..." "What's up?" "Yea tonight?" "Huh?" "Yeah, okay".... And these all come in different time intervals.... 1 minute.. 45 minutes... 3 minutes...

I'm going to toss the next phone I see into the nearest puddle of water...

-CCSB