I got dressed, and walked over to a friend's house... Waited there for him, and when he called, I headed outside to meet this POT SD. Problem #1: His car looked nothing extravagant. I know not all SDs have money oozing from their pores, but I was expecting more than I saw... Couldn't even take it to the car wash...??? In the car, I asked if he'd mind, driving me to the other location instead of my house... He agreed... So, I told my ride to go on without me. Nonetheless, we rode on to the location, which was packed on a Friday night... I was nervous, but figured, "Hey, no need to stress... I look good..." ((which I did)).
Walking in was a spectacle on its own... People, black & white, old & young, snapped their heads in our direction and I could feel all their eyes burning into my skin... Here we were, an older caucasian gentleman and a thick, beautiful black woman holding hands together--I can only imagine what they thought of us... Problem #2: Every time there was another person near, Mr Fix-It would grab me close and make a show... I mean, I understand wanting to show me off, but it was a little excessive... The server came to me, and asked if I wanted a drink, and before I could respond, my POT grabbed my hand, and pulled me away--ordering what he assumed I wanted...
We played pool for a little under two hours, and chatted flirtatiously... I'd never played before but after the first game, and a after knocking balls off of the table, I got the hang of it. Mr Fix-It was in awe at how quickly I figured out how to create angles, and bank balls... He also couldn't take his eyes off of me...
Eventually, we got to "the talk"... I already knew that he had two children, both of whom he was paying child support for, and since he was relatively a nice guy--and didn't have that creeper feel about him--I decided to drop my set price down...SIGNIFICANTLY... When I told him my requests... I could feel him drawing away... He simply told me that he paid just as much in child support for each child, and proceeded to go down his monthly list of expenses he already had... I knodded and "uh-huhed" but didn't really care... If he wanted my company, I wasn't going to go any lower... The spark we had on the date had floated out of the building... Mr Fix-It was quiet, and I could tell he wanted the arrangement, but was fighting himself about my allowance. He eventually came out and admitted that he wouldn't be able to afford that. I knodded, and was polite... the whole... "We can still talk, and such"... I was livid on the inside, I had a few things I needed him to pay for for the month, and now this???
Problem #3: Mr Fix-It slowly got back into the date, and suggested that I hold up my end of the bargain, for not even an allowance... But just the minimum financial support... -_-
He was serious... So? Now I have to pretend to like you, let you hold my hand, and hold me close, inhaling your disgusting cigarette odor, and staring at your bad teeth and beer belly, when I could be going home with the server ((who was gorgeous, btw))... and do it for free?!?!?!
**Have to quote Creole here "My time is precious and if I wanted to give it away for free I'd go find a hot young sexy muscular Brazilian or Italian guy to lick chocolate off my body…not some old fuddy duddy married man."
On the drive back, I danced around the idea of having him pay for the basics... But I couldn't swallow the idea of giving him the premium for paying practically nothing... If he wanted all of me...my time, and affection, he'd have to give all I wanted. I gave Mr Fix-It the directions to the party, I was supposed to head over to... It was in the city...
Problem #4: Mr Fix-It looked at me, and said "I'm not driving you into the city..." I was shocked... Now, I had no way into the city, and I HAD to be there within the hour. I called a cab. He asked me if everything was alright, but I was already over him... I told him, I needed $50 for a cab to the city, and he practically jumped out of his seat. WTF?! He pulled out a limp, old leather wallet.... faded, and patchy... and fumbled around with some singles, fives, and some ((I swear)) coins... I sat there and shook my head... He pulled out a $100 and I relaxed a bit... Ready to accept it, but Mr Fix-It was hesitant... He went on about having not much on him... and I thought "That's why the great God invented the ATM--hello?" Fumbling around, and checking his lint filled pockets, I watched him... Mr Fix-It refused to give me the $100, and instead, handed me a crumpled $13... I was shocked, but tried to maintain my composure. He was dead serious... He apologized, and talked about something, but all I heard was "blah blah blah... I'm broke... blah, balding, blah..."
Problem #5: When he pulled up to my corner, He turned off the car... I don't know why, since I had to go... He leaned over and tried to kiss me...He got a peck on my cheek... This n***a then had the nerve to ask for another, "with tongue". Mr Fix-It was fucking out of his mind... Firstly, you can't afford my already lowered allowance asking... Then you can't even pay for my cab fare--AFTER YOU ALREADT AGREED TO TAKE ME TO THE PARTY!!! And then you think you deserve to slip anything of yours inside of me... Get the fuck out of here...
I left the car, and waited for my cab... Not only did I get there late, but I ended up having to pay for my admission to the club, and then pay for my cab... This date, if anything cost me. Since when was this how it was supposed to work...?
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Mr Fix-It has definitely lost it with me, but I'm going to hold on, just a bit, to see if he'll pay for a quick fix... After that... His ass is Grass!!!!
Ladies... smfh... lol
-CCSB
Oh hell muthapluckin' no!
ReplyDeleteGirl don't even waste your time on him again! He's shown you his TRUE broke colors and I doubt if he would end up even paying your basics! He couldn't even pay for your cab! Girl, kick his ass to the curb and go on that POT chase again! i know that you've invested time and energy into him, but just chalk it up as a lesson learned. Trust me, you will regret it later! And if he's that bold to LIE and say that he's going to drive you into the city and then REFUSE to pay for your cab ride (that's what he did when he couldn't give you the full 100 bucks), then HAVE the NERVE to ask for some "tongue", what else do you think he would do?! He has proven to be a FAKE and a LIAR! WTH is he doing on the sites if he wants to cry about CS!? He needs to get his broke ass on Plenty of Fish then! Don't let that FAKE get the pleasure of getting his ego stroked and then some. Drop him and find another POT.
I have no words.
ReplyDeleteWhen these guys are like that with you, just cut things right then and there. The problem is that there were 5 of them.
Some men (70%) just sign up to these sites for sexting/nudes/easy sex/arm candy for free...What he got from you a good Sugar Daddy would pay for. You deserve it. You did your best to be good company to him, you know. You got all made up for him. For some people, that is all a Sugar Baby is...Also, don't hit the clubs and let other potentials see you with someone not a Sugar. They will assume you are taken. He got to show you off for free! What if a rich man was up in there?
The reality is that it will probably take about 4 months to find the right Sugar. Dead serious. Everyone goes through this. Soon you will be a Sugar Daddy Screening Machine...It is depressing because this guy may be the only person who has emailed you in weeks...It is even hard in big cities so it must be worse in smaller ones.
OMG! My poor Chocolate Chip! ::hugs:: Yea girl don't call his ass no more! If he can't pay for cab fare then he certainly wouldn't be reliable for a cell phone bill or much else. What an asshole! I am so angry for you!
ReplyDeleteThis is what you need to do. Get a friend to be your "look out". I have one. You will give her as much information on a POT as possible, addresses of places you're going and meeting, times. 20 minutes into a date your "look out" needs to call you to make sure that you are alright. If things are good you answer the phone and say you're busy. Things are bad say you need help with your homework as soon as possible. In case like this, when he started feigning broke - text your "look out" and tell her ass to come get you asap. When she gets there, excuse yourself on an emergency and go POOF!
Peppers is right, he got attention that an SD would've paid good money for. I know what your desired allowance is…and if you went lower than that…yeah that guy was a straight up cheapo! Never sell yourself for less doll. Not only should he have given you that $100, he should've given you $400 just for such an amazing date that you were. Hang in there, you're going to find the right one. You could always try hitting up high profile places and meeting POTs in person. I'm thinking about trying that.
When the bills are piling up and you will do just about anything to get some of em paid. Including put up with nonsense. I know how it is Chocolate Chip. You were probably in so much disbelief and did not realize he was for real.
ReplyDeleteGirl, I agree with KarmynBlasian, after point #2 you should've bounced. In an earlier post you were asking about safety tips...Always a good idea to have money to get your butt home bcuz it is not smart or saavy to leave your home relying on some random dude to hopefully not leave your ass stranded:-(
ReplyDeleteYou can definitely have a range you feel comfortable with allowance-wise, but a Pots' personal issues are not your problem. If he had to pay a lot out of his ass for child support he shouldn't have been on the site in the first place. Do NOT lowball to accommodate, if you do not feel comfortable with it. You will end up feeling used when it is all said & done.
I am not saying you had to "act a fool," but you don't get any extra points so no need for kissing him. As I have said before to others, the guys only do what others and yourself allow him to do. You wrote "He leaned over and tried to kiss me...He got a peck on my cheek... This n***a then had the nerve to ask for another, "with tongue". Uuuuhhh, after he fed you a "woe is me" story, couldn't afford your allowance, didn't keep his word, gave you nada to make up for backing out of his word...You KISSED him on the cheek. What dude wouldn't ask for something more? Talk about mixed signals, you don't reward someone for screwing you over and not keeping their word.
...and why in the world you would want to wait around for him to give you "pennies on the dollar" is beyond me:-/ He has already proven he doesn't keep his word, he has no regard or respect for you, he wouldn't even give you enough cab fair to get where you needed to go bcuz he was so strapped for cash, etc. If he couldn't do cab fare...How in the HELL could he do an allowance? I have no clue what these pots do (job-wise), but when you deal with VP's, CEO's, etc. they are normally good negotiators and you lowballing yourself and putting up with this bs (sorry, for lack of a better word) you will have a hard time getting anywhere near what you are worthy of.
When it comes to working out allowance/travel/gifts there is a finesse to it and the power of negotiation gets you far! I am not saying you need to be business saavy:-) Just know when to cut your losses and call it a day:-)
What I will say and most girls don't like to hear this but doing P4P if you are really, really straped for cash is a thought. If you so choose, of course! Bcuz disrespecting yourself & putting up with someone who is so obviously not worthy of your time, energy, and effort especially in how he treated you time after time can wear on one's essence.