I simply said "I don't give up the sugar on the first date. It has to happen naturally".
And he responded with ((and I quote)) "U don't have sex on the first date. I don't give benefits on the first date"...
I asked "So, you're only interested in sex?" and he replies (an hour later)
"I am not interested in solely sex. I want us to cluck and enjoy time together. However, I am interested in sex. LOL"...
*sigh*
I'm obviously not going tonight... But this is getting to be so frustrating... Sugar Babes aren't escorts... We're not prostitutes... So why must we get this nonsense.
Is it because I have yet to find a quality SD? What happened to just the dating part? I'm open to having fun, flirting, dating, dining... But sex??? You're on the wrong site buddy...
I knew this wouldn't be easy--finding a quality SD... I also didn't think that there'd be so many guys out there looking for easy, cheap p***y... I'm not down with giving up my diamonds for money... There has to be a connection... attraction... SOMETHING...
It's just really annoying, because I need some GUAP asap... Gonna hit up my other Pot and see what he's doing tonight...
***And what is it with this texting??? It drives me crazy... I prefer a short, sweet, to-the-point phone call... "Where are we going?" "What time?" "Where shall I meet you?" etc etc etc... Precise and done... Instead I get short, choppy, not consistent text messages that all amount to more confusion... "Hey" "Hi" "So..." "What's up?" "Yea tonight?" "Huh?" "Yeah, okay".... And these all come in different time intervals.... 1 minute.. 45 minutes... 3 minutes...
I'm going to toss the next phone I see into the nearest puddle of water...
-CCSB
"Is it because I have yet to find a quality SD? What happened to just the dating part? I'm open to having fun, flirting, dating, dining... But sex??? You're on the wrong site buddy..."
ReplyDeleteYou have to realize my version of "a quality SD" and your version and someone else's version COMPLETELY differ. If you read enough blogs you will read some ladies whose choices you agree with and others who you are completely & utterly against. The reason guys/Pots act & talk in the way they do is bcuz there is no black and white way a SD/SB relationship should occur/begin.
At the base of it, SB is there for Sugar ($) and Pots are there for Sugar ($ex/companionship). That is the black & white version you can make it sound fluffy with pink bows and sprinkles but that's what it is. Some ladies are fine with first date sex if the Pot has the allowance then it's cool while others are not. Just like in the RL, some girls have sex on the first date while others are absolutely offended to be asked for even a kiss.
At the same time, if a Pot acts in a way you do not like. Then you give him another chance and another chance, etc. It's not his fault, it's yours for continuing to allow him to do you the way he is. Move on!
Guys learn about SD/SB relationships like most of the ladies on the sites via talk shows and news interviews. Those portrayals are normally bullshit! Just like a lot of females think after watching the show “I’m a pretty a guy will just give me tons of money to be in my presence”…A lot of guys think “I can buy a dinner and give a cheap gift and sleep with a pretty girl”. That is NOT what the Sugar World is for everyone. Each relationship is different and you make the rules for yours:-)
You make the rules, lady:-) I do NOT do phone calls and text msgs before 1st meets. Or I should say it’s rare…on my last Sugar Hunt I talked to 1 guy on the phone briefly. It's a waste of my time and cell minutes, especially bcuz I do intensive sugar dating. With my last search I went on about 13 dates in 2 weeks. I do NOT have time to be bs'ing with every dude. There are nice ways to not spend your time and minutes on the phone. Especially, bcuz you can end up with guys who never plan on meeting they just want phone buddies. A guy will not chuck you to the side bcuz you don't want to be phone buddies before you ever meet:-( The only exception I could see is if he were in another state.
Just my 2 cents:-)
Definitely don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. Its definitely a process in finding an SD who you're on the same page with. Like Butterfly, I serial date POTs and try to quickly screen who is a good match and who is not quickly because it is your time. In my research and fascination with the sugar world, I have noticed that there are tons of different types of sugar relationships...some that I would consider escorting. That's why its good to be clear up front about what type of relationship you're interested in rather than meeting and talking for a while and then realizing that you two have different ideas on what you expect from the sugar relationship. Don't get frustrated, keep looking, keep your chin up :)
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