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| Mr FixIt |
One of my main POTs, Mr FixIt, has been on my mind as of lately... He's a very kind man, and seems like a genuine and great guy... However, there's something telling me that he's got another side to show...
Mr FixIt has already told me how he feels about exclusivity... He feels that if I am his SB, then he should be the ONLY man of interest in my life. He literally calls me everyday--somtimes 2-3 times a day... I understand that he may be lonely, or just need someone to talk to--and with that, I am alright... But he often asks what my day will be consisting of... Who'll I'll be spending time with... When I'll be back home, etc...
I feel that these questions are questions no SD should be asking me... Especially since we've already established and agreed on the term that this would be a NoStrings relationship...
An example: I was on the phone, listening to Mr FixIt talk about his day, when I got another incoming call... I excused myself, to asnwer it, and found out that it was one of the guys I am dating on the side... I really wanted to chat with him, so I clicked over to Mr FixIt, and said I was sorry... That I had to take the call, and that I'd call him back... He said it was alright, but then asked me who it was... If it was a guy... and if he was important to me... He then reminded me that it was he who would be paying for my needs, and not the guy I was hanging up on him for...
I know that some SDs want exclusivity, but I doubt I can do that... Currently, I'm seeing about 3-4 different people, and even if Mr FixIt supported me in everyway, I wouldn't want to stop seeing those other guys... Am I wrong to want a life outside of out relationship? or must I conform to his rules for his sugar...???
-CCSB
NEEDY! Yea…I would not permit him to talk to me on the phone that often. Arrangement or no arrangement, you have a life. I've had a bunch of POTs say they want exclusivity (even though they're the ones MARRIED). I just go along with it, but at the end of the day I'm going to do what I want to do anyways and SB/SD relationships are about fulfilling fantasies…not realities like hard core commitment. So if its his desire to have me all to him self…I'll give him that "fantasy" :P
ReplyDelete...If I were sleeping with someone, I would want them only to sleep with me...Especially if I were 'cheating on my wife'. What if he gets something from his Sugar Baby and gives it to his wife?
ReplyDeleteI know that if you are cheating on your wife or sleeping with someone's husband, you don't have a whole lot of respect for others anyhow, and one would probably say that you "deserved what you got", but I wouldn't wish an STD on anyone...
That aside it seems like he wants to feel like you are his girlfriend. I wouldn't want to pay somebody a monthly allowance only to have them click over to talk to their new boo. That takes away from feeling like he is "the man" and you "really want to be with him" which it sounds like you don't...Is it that he is needy, or do you just not like him? Or both?
It sounds like he may perhaps be controlling. 2-3 times a day? Is this the only sign he may be controlling? You are not a dog for him to have on a leash. You know your worth :)