First Date Bliss

Okay... So, I went to see Mr Capoeira on Thursday evening...

   We met up at a cute little sushi place, in the city... Either I'd been talking to too many unattractive men, or he was just that handsome... But, Mr Capoeira was even better looking than his photos online... For a moment I just stared... He had long, twisted dread locs... He was tall, and his muscles could be seen under his coat... He had that little bit of bow-leggedness, that I love so much... Everything about him was sexy... From his Kango to his crip black top, to his fitted pants ((and what an ass he had)). I was so happy to have found a Pot that was this fine... I thought, "hey, this should make everything easier"...

    I'd never had sushi, and was reluctant to try anything... So, I drank... I'm not a big drinker, but I can hold liquor... I tried Sake... it wasn't my cup of tea, but he loved it... Mr Capoeira ate 6 plates of raw fish, and I had 2 glasses of wine, a martini, and a cosmo...

   The conversation was light, and airy... I don't know if it was because he was that funny, or that amazingly fine, but I had a grin on my lips the entire time... As he was placing some food in his mouth, for a moment, I caught my eyes following his chopstick, and caught a glimmer of something shiny in his mouth... When I asked what it was, he stuck his tongue out at me... Mr Capoeira had a two tongue rings in his mouth... I couldn't believe it... That struck up an entire different conversation... Turns out he also pierced his nipples and his penis... It took me by surprise... Here I am... 'Little miss conservative', sitting across from 'Mr Freak'... But it wasn't gross... It was so sexy... I was intrigued...

   After the sushi was long gone, and his drinks seemed to take hold, he loosened up... The physical attraction was there... the chemistry was... I kept wanting to kiss him... He asked me what I wanted, and then I had to focus... This is usually where I had the most problems... Expressing what it was I wanted from men... With a deep breath, I told him... I wanted an allowance for a set number of dates, etc... But he was so fine... I added, since I was so attracted to him, and since we got along so well, we could meet up more if time permitted...

   He didn't like the idea of an allowance right away... And insisted something that sounded like a trial period...  before considering an allowance... I was secretly upset... A trial period...??? Hmph... He told me what he expected... STD Testing, some sort of contraceptive ((any other man, and this would have been so gross))... He wanted lacy lingerie, and heels... And he told me how much he loved the way my hair fell on my shoulders...  ((that weave was a GOOD idea))... But if after said "evaluation" he decided not to agree to the arrangement, then what..??? I would have wasted time, shoes, money and energy on nothing...

   Still we talked about it... He talked a lot... It was good, though... I sat back and watched him tell me about himself without literally doing so... He was so easy to read... Mr Capoeira was cocky, and so sure about himself... He claimed he knew the woman's body in and out... He told me about his past arrangement... He had so many companies, my website, my hourly rate... blah blah blah... It was amusing...

   After dinner, he took me to Sephora... And let be walk up and down the aisles... He said his sister worked in make-up, and he had an appreciation of it all... It wasn't a giftcard, but I checked that late gift off of  my Christmas wish-list... Mr Capoeira bought me +$300 in makeup and fragrances... If this was what the trial period was going to consist of, then, I'd have no problem...

   Still, he was so sexy... His walk was slow, and deliberate... His back was hard under his trench... and his ass... ladies... I wanted him so badly...

   Afterwards, he offered to put me in a cab, but I didn't accept... I thanked him for everything with a nice, long hug... He was strong, and I could tell he didn't want me to leave... We parted ways, with that, and I took the train home...

   Once I exited the subway, I had a text waiting for me...

"Had a great time. You have the prettiest smile and the most gorgeous legs. Can't wait till tomorrow.
-A"

   I went to bed  really easy that night...

-CCSB

Jumping the Gun...

SO... I said I was going to get back into this strong... and it seems all of my work has been paying off... I was supposed to meet with Mr Capoeira two days ago, but had to cancel for a family death... I know that I messed up my chanced with Mr Big for cancelling, so I decided to try again... He hadn't hit me up since then... So, this evening, I just called him...

His voice was surprisingly sexy on the phone. He said the same about me... ((I swore he read my mind)) After small chit chat, I simply asked what he was doing tonight... He said he was free... So, I asked him out... Plain and simple... And to my surprise, he said "I'd like that..."

We have a date in a few hours at a sushi spot in Midtown... I'm excited, but not nervous... He seems really down to earth, and fun... Not to mention, he's kind of hot... ((I love a man with dreds))... Hopefully this works out...

Talk to you lovelies when I get home...

-CCSB

Diligent Little Elf...

I know it's the Holiday season, and I should be spending it with friends and family ((with I have done here and there)), but I have been working hard to reestablish myself with the Sugar world... I've reset many profiles on different sites, and spent hours upon hours emailing, messaging, and talking back and forth with numerous men...
This time, it seems different, though... I'm not as stressed or pressed to find a potential now... It's all coming back to me now, and being patient ((and perhaps taking that break)) is working for me...

I have a few potentials lined up...

    Mr Traveler: Older, white male... beady little eyes... lol... He claims to have traveled the world... Private jets, etc... He doesn't reside in NY... so that's good for me... We all know I can't stomach a man who isn't nice on the eyes for long... He'd like to set up something where we'd meet only when he's in town--up to twice a month... I proposed my allowance, but he prefers p4p... we'll see... Since it's the holiday seaosn, and he's with  his family... we cannot meet up until mid January... Hopefully this doesn't fall through by then... I'd hate to have given quality attention to a potential for nothing... He's already asked about the things Santa forgot to drop off from my Christmas list... I mentioned the Canon camera and the MAC/Sephora giftcards... Hopefully, he'll send me a lil sum sumn to hold me over between now and January...

    Mr Capoeira: A younger, quite handsome, able-bodied black man... Says he was a professional dancer, but now teaches Capoeira... Love that ladies... :)  He seems more reserved, so I haven't pushed things on him as I've done with other Pots... He does seem experienced with this sort of relationship though... He doesn't seem to be looking for much and even brought up the idea of an allowance before I said anything... I know to be wary though... I offered to meet with him today, actually, but due to a spur of the moment Vegas trip, he won't be available till this weekend... No biggies, I told him to hit me up when he's back in town...

I did go ahead and install my hair as I wanted... Super lush and super long... A very different look for me... I'm coming into the new year with a new attitude, and hopefully it'll work out for the better...

Happy Sugar Dancing...
-CCSB

Starting Again...

Firstly... Hello again you lovely ladies... A very Merry Every and Anything it is you choose to celebrate this Holiday Season... I pray you get everything you wish for... Good company, health, wealth, and sugar opportunities... There's something magical about this time of year... I'd like to sprinkle a little bit of sparkley dust to each one of you...

I've decided not to buy anyone Christmas gifts this year. I'm saving up for a car, and it's killing me... but I know it'll be so worth it... I'm even going to do my best to not buy myself things either... It will be ever so hard, though... However, I do know what it is that I want...

My Christmas Wish List:

1. A Car... duh... 

2. Hot Tools Professional Dryer

3. Canon EOS Rebel T3i 600 18.0 MP Camera.... (((please please please....)))

4. MAC and Sephora Giftcards (of course)

5. A new weave... I'd love to try something new with my hair for the new year... I'm thinking long... and full... Maybe 16"... ((I will be doing this soon))

6. A smoking hot New Year's kiss...

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A recurring theme I've been reading baout on many of your blogs is that of school... Oh man... was this semester a doozy for me... I took on 18 credits, two sports, 3 clubs to manage, two part-time jobs... the list doesn't end there... Needless to say, I didn't do as well academically... Nothing to stress over though... It's over and I can't change anything now... Next year... will be different though... I hope you all aced your finals and grin everyy time you see that juicy A+ on your transcript...

As for my sugar conquests... They were non-existent this whole semester... I basically took a break... Since beginning this journey, I have experienced many things... Met wonderful people, and learned more about myself... I didn't know what I was getting into, and still have questions along the way...
I so don't mean to make this sound like an application essay for a scholarship...

I'm basically trying to say that I'm back... Ready to give it my all this time... I'm going to try things I was afraid to before, and be more agressive... I read all the time that "newbies never last more than a couple of months"... I refuse to fall into that stigma... I've already renewed subscriptions, and reached out to old POTs... Let's see where the cards fall this time...

Side note...

I don't know how many of you women know what this is... But I've been on a hair journey for the past year... I've watched my hair grow longer than it has been my whole life... I decided to do a 4 month stretch, and just today took out my box braids... I am so happy... Can't wait to relax... ((I said it was a side note))

Can't wait to get back into the groove of things with you all...

-CCSB

Okay... Time's-A-Tickin'

"I'm looking for love. Real love... Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love..." she says...

 I practically melted when Carrie Bradshaw told Alexander that... My favorite season for going out on dates... Showing my toned legs under sheer tights... And sitting in bed with mint-filled chocolate candies, watching seasons of Sex and the City... Don't you love Autumn...???

So, my prayers for a seasonal lovah have yet to be answered... My fingers are so sore, I can barely thread a needle... Masturbation can only go so far... And I'm running out of fantasies... Perhaps I should leave flyers around campus... Hold auditions or something of the sort...

The worst of it is that I'm secretly dying to have something like Carrie described... What woman doesn't see that in her future... Maybe it's in our programming... I'm not looking for a Prince Charming... He doesn't even have to be "tall, dark, or handsome"... I'll start with a nice, thick piece of hardware... Viens, and a little curve wouldn't be too much to ask... no???

All I know is that both my heart, and my kitty are in need of some serious male attention... 

I'm going crazy...

-CCSB

...Getting hard...

It's getting cooler out... The air, more fresh and crisp... Perfect date weather... I'm getting hornier and hornier, too, it seems... If I can't find a man to roll around with soon... I'm going to go crazy...

-CCSB

The Clock Struck 12...

Since school has started for me, I've been fairly busy with my real life... Everything has to be scheduled right down to the exact time, otherwise I won't be able to do it... And even then, there's still room for chaos.... I told myself, no sugar livin' until I can tone some things down a bit...

And just by happenstance, I met a great guy... Mr BIG brought back the excitement I felt in the summer... For a few weeks, I was almost like Cinderella again... Primping, and reading blogs... Setting dates, and simply imagining how great it'd be to finally work out some sort of arrangement with a guy, that I actually liked, nonetheless...

But just like in the fairy-tale... The clock struck 12, and I've been rid of my pretty dress and fabulous shoes... Only this time, Mr BIG doesn't really want anything to do with me right now...

Short and sweet, I messed up... We had a date set for last week, and I cancelled due to an emergency reschedule... I know it was messed up, but I couldn't not do that thing... Low and behold now, he's pretty much lost interest, and I'm back to where I was about a month ago... Busy, always studying, and BROKE... It really does suck, but what can ya do???

At least, I learned a good one for the road... Don't get excited about spur-of-the-moment chances...

-CCSB

Sometimes It's Just Too Much...

We all know that living these double lives takes a toll on us all... Sometimes, the solid line blurs a bit, and discerning between the two becomes just a little more difficult... What happens when we have to choose between the two...???

Do you pick the Box of Reality...??? Because it's the norm... What you've known, and can rely on???

Or do you choose the Box o Sweets...??? Never quite sure what flavour you'll get, but it's an adventure all the same...??? With every bite, you're experiencing something exotic, new, and refreshing...

***Well, real life's been a pain... I have a job interview set up for tomorrow... Had another yesterday, and another Monday... ((a girl's gotta have Funds right???)) Tons of extra activities too... But they're all kind of cutting into my Sugar World's time...

I was supposed to go on my second date with Mr Big tomorrow night... But, because of my busy RL, there was a conflict... It makes me sad, because I really did want to see him again... But reality will be there when he won't be... We'll see if he understands...

Hope all of you wonderful women don't have lives as stressful as my own... And that the sweet, sticky, and sugary gum drops rain upon you from above...

-CCSB

It's All Coming Back To Me Now...

I had my first date with the gentleman i mentioned in a previous post... I think I'll call him Mr BIG... We met at a little bar in the city... I was surprised to find a quite handsome man... I don't know why I was expecting some old, greyed, balding fellah with a portable oxygen tank alongside him... LOL... (I was....)

***Firstly ladies... I'm not a big drinker... So, wine, beer, etc... Not really my thing...***

Overall, I had a nice time... He seemed more nervous, though, than I... The atmosphere was relaxing, and fairly young... We talked about our past endeavors... The good and the just-plain-ugly... Eventually, it came up--what we were both looking for from each other...

Upon meeting him, I didn't really expect this relationship to be of that kind. I figured it'd be more of a mentor/mentee thing... But I surely cannot resist the offer from Mr BIG... He knows what he's doing, and everything was upfront... He's not into allowances... ((Doesn't that just break your hearts, ladies???)) And I'd be able to meet once a week... I mentioned that I would like an allowance... The terms... to come, I'm sure...

*** I could have sworn, while sitting in a small courtyard, afterwards... That Mr BIG leaned in to try to kiss me... It might have been in my mind... I simply leaned back, and stared at him from above my glasses... What was he doing? Was it a test? Did he really think I'd let him, or anyone else, for that matter, kiss me like that--on the first date??? I don't know... maybe it was the beers... maybe it was the nice, crisp, chill in the air... But that move had me on alert... Mr BIG did get a little touchy-feely after leaving the bar... But I simply assumed he was just excited about the prospect of me...

During the date, he noticed my body... Mr BIG told me he loved how strong I was...
***Ladies, I am a competitive cheerleader, and being in shape is duper important for that***
We talked about the whole Black/White thing... compared being with other races... He loves himself some chocolate... :)  Who wouldn't want some...???

On another note, he did hint at "making it up to me for missing my birthday"... :)  I casually mentioned that a nice, new Nook would be great to have... as a college student... And that having my textbooks paid for would be amazing... Since they're all about $150-$200 each... Just sayin'...

We'll see...

I'm actually glad that we met... I was falling off the bandwagon, and it was a nice way to ease back into this double life... Mr BIG seems promising, and best of all... There's chemistry... So this relationship just might the best of both worlds... Easy-going dates... fun... great chemistry... AND the funds!!!

We have another date scheduled for next week.... Don't know what we're to do, but I'll keep you all posted...

-CCSB

Waiting to Exhale...

Ladies... we are all looking for that sugary perfection... That great relationship(s) where you can have fun, be in great (handsome) company, and still end up with some $$$ in your bank account... And we work ever so hard... Making sure our bodies are in tip-top shape... Blowing our hair out into great volumes... Walking tall in our pencil skirts and stilettos... The double lives we live bring great pleasure and excitement to us... while driving us mad at the same time...

Although I'm on a slight hiatus from my alternate life... My main life has kind of fallen off also... Ladies... I don't have a man... And lately, it's been driving me crazy... Now, It could just be because the weather is getting nicer... Cool and crisp... leaves changing beautifully... But something in me is going crazy... I need a man... Not simply for the dates... but for the sex...

I admit, it has been a while for me... And almost every night, I find myself tossing and turning underneath my covers...

Sugar Circle:
Ladies, let's hear it... How do you deal with lack of sex...? Is it an issue for you...? Are you having sex with your SDs...? If so, how do you like that, compared to sex with normal men...? And, when is masturbation enough...?

-CCSB

An Unexpected Chance...

Well, ladies...

Even though I'm completely swamped with my RL right now... Somehow, someway... I've found myself a new POT... Can't say too much about him now, except that he's very much experienced, and I'm both anxious and nervously afraid to meet him... I have the date set for sometime soon... And being out of the loop has me thrown...

I feel like it's the beginning all over again... So, ladies... help me out... Any tips, tricks, or magic cards for me??? Let's have it... because I'm a fish out of water, and this guy has been swimming around for a loooonnnnngggg time...

-CCSB

I'm Falling and I Can't Find My Legs...

Since school started, back in August... I've slowly turned from the life of sugar... I'm super busy... School is serious this semester... I'm taking 7 classes... Tennis season has been super harsh--bad weather sucks. And being a cheerleader makes it no easier... Not to mention having a job, and I'm currently looking for another...

I miss the sugary life... I miss sitting on my bed indian-style and searching on my laptop through profiles... rifling through messages... and updating pictures... for HOURS... I miss the nervous excited feeling right before a date... Or the promise of another bill being paid... I miss reading the blogs of you fabulous women and men...

*sigh*

Maybe when it gets a little later in the semester... Perhaps in the winter, I'll get back into the life... Right now, though... I just can't... If I could pause time then sure... But, for now... I'll just be checking in every now and again...

-CCSB

Books, Pencils, Pigtales, and Short Skirts...

RIIIIIINNNNNNGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



It's back to school for my sweet, chocolate ass...
I'm back to crowded hallways, starving in the library, long lines, and sleepless nights... But it's what I've got to do...

Basically, I'm the "all achiever"... Thus, I'm sticking my head in anything and everything I can possibly get into. I'm one of the captains of my college's competitive cheer squad, on the tennis team, in the pre med club, french club, art club, student activities club... I'm working two jobs, and looking for another, and finally I've decided to load myself with 18 credits for the semester (the maximum). Saying "I'll be busy" would definitely be an understatement. But, this is where, and how I thrive. Somehow, I just do well, with all the pressure... And it'll give me a break from my SB goals...

Not to say that I've let it go, because I haven't, but I think now, that this should be good for me...I need to firstly get me under control, before I go tackling this... I need to have only the best head on my shoulders, so I can be at my best when trying to snag me a good SD... I have been searching still... But not as viciously as before... I've signed up for a few more sites, but I'm taking it slow... I've only been checking my email 1x a day... compared to the 15-20x a day I used to...

***
I have, however, been on 7 dates in the past week... Not with Pots... but with guys that I figure I'll practice on in the meantime... I've decided to take some advice from the lovely Creole, and see if I can work my magic on guys closer to my age... If I can get them to get me things, then I'll be all the more ready to get what I want from my future SDs...

Firstly, the TruckDriver... Simple huh... lol... I met him parhazard, in a cab on the way home, and he got my number... We went out last week, and he took me to a nice, chic lounge/pool hall... He's older, 36, but I wasn't phased by that at all... He's tall, chocolatey dark, and very much handsome... Shaved head, and a strong back... Single, and no kids... I had a great time with him, but I got a little inkling that he was a little too interested in my body, and not my mind... So I'm going to keep him on a long leash... Maybe, I can get him to pay for my driving test... It's coming up soon, and he offered to give me a few lessons in his nice Audi...

Next we have BrownEyes... I met him at the club, and gave him my Google Voice # when he asked... Surprisingly, he turned out to be a great couple of dates... We went to eat at a sushi place near me... ((my first time with sushi--can't say I love it)) He saw me pushing the food around, and offered to take me to a great burger place... I loved it... He's easy going, and well-off for his age... Only 28... But super polite, and not creepy in any way... I marked him off as a creeper because I met him at the club... We'll see his true stripes of spots soon...
We went on a second date to the movies... That just happened to be by the mall... I offered to pick a movie, and purposely chose one that was a couple hours off... Hence, we had nothing to do but walk around the mall... I stopped into an ALDO, and tried some shoes on... Ladies... BrownEyes liked them so much, he paid for them... They weren't expensive Louboutins, but that made my day... $60 shoes... I'll take any pair of shoes for free... I was so giddy afterwards... The movie was a bore, I'd seen Crazy, Stupid, Love so many times already... On my way home, I gave BrownEyes a little kiss on the cheek, and practically skipped on home... New shoes in hand...

I had another date with another guy, HeadHunter... He actually works at the same hospital my mother works in... but in Human Resources... ((I've already inquired for a position)) He's 36, and cute... Met him on CL.com which is really different for me. Super corn ball, and it's so cute... He took me to Central Park and we walked around a bit... ((thank the Lawd I had flats on))... The stroll was nice, easy going, and it was nice not eating for a change... HeadHunter says he was raised by his 6 older sisters and I was afraid he could read me completely... Afterwards, we went to the wax Museum, on 42nd, and had a blast posing and taking pics with the figures... It was fun, and relaxing to be myself... ((but not all of myself))... I didn't get anything but money for a cab ride back home... But I'll keep him around...

***Going out on these dates were a good idea for me... Just when I was doubting my natural, quick wit, charm, and beauty... they've reminded me that if I don't have confidence in myself... No guy... let alone a SD will...

-CCSB

Dry Spell...

I wish I had a magic wand that I could wave around, and cast beautiful, plentiful showers of sugar upon sugar land...

...Unfortunately for me, this is far from ever happening...

After my last date, with Mr Fix-It, it seems I have less of a drive to fight for this... Perhaps it's because my RealLife id  kicking in... I have tennis practice 6 days a week, for 5 hours a day... And then cheerleading (I am a competitive cheer gal) butts itself into my schedule... That's almost like a part-time job in itself... I'm super tired, and busy... Not to mention, school starts in a couple of days...

*sigh*

It's just a lot... But I don't want to leave Candy Land... I love everything it has to offer, and the excitement. The fact that it's something new... The wonderful and supportive women out there...

I've been trying...but it seems I'm having poor luck in finding anyone lately... No one seems interested... I'm taking the initiative in messaging people... But not much of a bite... It makes me think, perhaps my profile needs an updating... I don't know... I'm just down in the dumps...

I'm also looking for new sites to check out... Any options, let me know...

But, yes... It's all dry and baron here... This cookie needs some warm, sweet milk...

-CCSB

Cump Change: Can't Be Serious...

SO yesterday, was my first date with Mr Fix-It... He was excited... I was tired... A long day at work, I was looking to unwind, and finally get my hands on some sugar... Also, a close friend of mine was celebrating a birthday at a club, and I had to attend afterwards...

I got dressed, and walked over to a friend's house... Waited there for him, and when he called, I headed outside to meet this POT SD. Problem #1: His car looked nothing extravagant. I know not all SDs have money oozing from their pores, but I was expecting more than I saw... Couldn't even take it to the car wash...??? In the car, I asked if he'd mind, driving me to the other location instead of my house... He agreed... So, I told my ride to go on without me. Nonetheless, we rode on to the location, which was packed on a Friday night... I was nervous, but figured, "Hey, no need to stress... I look good..." ((which I did)).

Walking in was a spectacle on its own... People, black & white, old & young, snapped their heads in our direction and I could feel all their eyes burning into my skin... Here we were, an older caucasian gentleman and a thick, beautiful black woman holding hands together--I can only imagine what they thought of us... Problem #2: Every time there was another person near, Mr Fix-It would grab me close and make a show... I mean, I understand wanting to show me off, but it was a little excessive... The server came to me, and asked if I wanted a drink, and before I could respond, my POT grabbed my hand, and pulled me away--ordering what he assumed I wanted...

We played pool for a little under two hours, and chatted flirtatiously... I'd never played before but after the first game, and a after knocking balls off of the table, I got the hang of it. Mr Fix-It was in awe at how quickly I figured out how to create angles, and bank balls... He also couldn't take his eyes off of me...

Eventually, we got to "the talk"... I already knew that he had two children, both of whom he was paying child support for, and since he was relatively a nice guy--and didn't have that creeper feel about him--I decided to drop my set price down...SIGNIFICANTLY... When I told him my requests... I could feel him drawing away... He simply told me that he paid just as much in child support for each child, and proceeded to go down his monthly list of expenses he already had... I knodded and "uh-huhed" but didn't really care... If he wanted my company, I wasn't going to go any lower... The spark we had on the date had floated out of the building... Mr Fix-It was quiet, and I could tell he wanted the arrangement, but was fighting himself about my allowance. He eventually came out and admitted that he wouldn't be able to afford that. I knodded, and was polite... the whole... "We can still talk, and such"... I was livid on the inside, I had a few things I needed him to pay for for the month, and now this???

Problem #3: Mr Fix-It slowly got back into the date, and suggested that I hold up my end of the bargain, for not even an allowance... But just the minimum financial support... -_-
He was serious... So? Now I have to pretend to like you, let you hold my hand, and hold me close, inhaling your disgusting cigarette odor, and staring at your bad teeth and beer belly, when I could be going home with the server ((who was gorgeous, btw))... and do it for free?!?!?!
**Have to quote Creole here "My time is precious and if I wanted to give it away for free I'd go find a hot young sexy muscular Brazilian or Italian guy to lick chocolate off my body…not some old fuddy duddy married man."

On the drive back, I danced around the idea of having him pay for the basics... But I couldn't swallow the idea of giving him the premium for paying practically nothing... If he wanted all of me...my time, and affection, he'd have to give all I wanted. I gave Mr Fix-It the directions to the party, I was supposed to head over to... It was in the city...

Problem #4: Mr Fix-It looked at me, and said "I'm not driving you into the city..." I was shocked... Now, I had no way into the city, and I HAD to be there within the hour. I called a cab. He asked me if everything was alright, but I was already over him... I told him, I needed $50 for a cab to the city, and he practically jumped out of his seat. WTF?! He pulled out a limp, old leather wallet.... faded, and patchy... and fumbled around with some singles, fives, and some ((I swear)) coins... I sat there and shook my head... He pulled out a $100 and I relaxed a bit... Ready to accept it, but Mr Fix-It was hesitant... He went on about having not much on him... and I thought "That's why the great God invented the ATM--hello?" Fumbling around, and checking his lint filled pockets, I watched him... Mr Fix-It refused to give me the $100, and instead, handed me a crumpled $13... I was shocked, but tried to maintain my composure. He was dead serious... He apologized, and talked about something, but all I heard was "blah blah blah... I'm broke... blah, balding, blah..."

Problem #5: When he pulled up to my corner, He turned off the car... I don't know why, since I had to go... He leaned over and tried to kiss me...He got a peck on my cheek... This n***a then had the nerve to ask for another, "with tongue". Mr Fix-It was fucking out of his mind... Firstly, you can't afford my already lowered allowance asking... Then you can't even pay for my cab fare--AFTER YOU ALREADT AGREED TO TAKE ME TO THE PARTY!!! And then you think you deserve to slip anything of yours inside of me... Get the fuck out of here...

I left the car, and waited for my cab... Not only did I get there late, but I ended up having to pay for my admission to the club, and then pay for my cab... This date, if anything cost me. Since when was this how it was supposed to work...?

Mr Fix-It

Mr Fix-It has definitely lost it with me, but I'm going to hold on, just a bit, to see if he'll pay for a quick fix... After that... His ass is Grass!!!!

Ladies... smfh... lol

-CCSB

Sugar Dating & The Rules of Exclusivity...

Mr FixIt

One of my main POTs, Mr FixIt, has been on my mind as of lately... He's a very kind man, and seems like a genuine and great guy... However, there's something telling me that he's got another side to show...

Mr FixIt has already told me how he feels about exclusivity... He feels that if I am his SB, then he should be the ONLY man of interest in my life. He literally calls me everyday--somtimes 2-3 times a day... I understand that he may be lonely, or just need someone to talk to--and with that, I am alright... But he often asks what my day will be consisting of... Who'll I'll be spending time with... When I'll be back home, etc...

I feel that these questions are questions no SD should be asking me... Especially since we've already established and agreed on the term that this would be a NoStrings relationship...

An example: I was on the phone, listening to Mr FixIt talk about his day, when I got another incoming call... I excused myself, to asnwer it, and found out that it was one of the guys I am dating on the side... I really wanted to chat with him, so I clicked over to Mr FixIt, and said I was sorry... That I had to take the call, and that I'd call him back... He said it was alright, but then asked me who it was... If it was a guy... and if he was important to me... He then reminded me that it was he who would be paying for my needs, and not the guy I was hanging up on him for...

I know that some SDs want exclusivity, but I doubt I can do that... Currently, I'm seeing about 3-4 different people, and even if Mr FixIt supported me in everyway, I wouldn't want to stop seeing those other guys... Am I wrong to want a life outside of out relationship? or must I conform to his rules for his sugar...???

-CCSB

New POTs and Shaking It Up...

So, with the help of all you lovelies.... I've got off to a great start to my SB career... I've set up some profiles on a number of sites, I've chatted a bit with, and I've dated a few potentials...

Saturday night, I had a movie date night with my non-SB best friend... ((not that I have a SB-best friend)) I had no dates planned, and wanted to let it rest... Spending hours emailing potentials, and reading up on blogs is almost like being in school... Honestly... I'm trying to learn as much as possible, so I'm reading tons... Sometimes for hours at a time... Then trying to apply it to my situations...

But yes, I had a date night with my girl, and we headed off to the movies to see Crazy,Stupid,Love... First and lastly, Ryan Gosling is and has always been on my list of celebrity f***s... ((what, I have a sex drive, and he's up on my list...))

Don't we wish our Pots could look like this???
Anyway, I had a great time, and it was seriously a great way to let go of the SB double life for a few hours... That night, I even met a guy in the cab ride home, and scored his number... He is super cute, and has a mean body... A little older, but since I've been chatting it up with these near ancient POTs, it was no biggie... He also get's my witty, dry sense of humor, and has a great smile... It was nice, talking to a normal guy, and just thinking "Oh, he's cute..." and not "I wonder if he'll give me an allowance"...


***Back to the Confections...
I've decided to let go the two POTs I went out with last week... Both, Mr SJP and Mr Boondocks... Neither of them could live up to the name Sugar Daddy for different reasons... As I read, understand, and experience more about this world, I am building more of a confidence about myself--what I want, what I expect, and what I will not tolerate... Mr SJP was let go because he didn't have simple manners... Not only did he disrespect me by feeling me up, but he was rude, and was simply looking for sex... CUT!!! Mr Boondocks didn't know what he wanted. He had a scheduled tennis date last night, but he didn't come through. I wasn't even surprised, actually... I was just upset, because I could have gone out with another POT... CUT!!!

New Potentials...
So, I have a few... they all seem promising, but we all know how hard it is to find a real SD that's also a gentleman and looking for a discreet relationship...

Mr Aussie

Thus, meet Mr Aussie...
Met him on a site, about two weeks ago, and we hit it off great right away... Pretty young, and from ((you guess it)) Australia... With him, there was great chemistry over the conversations, and we even discussed our wants out of the relationship... He's not in my location, and only hits up New York for about a week at a time for work... He's offering a great amount for my company most of the days of the week to dinners, drinks, shopping, etc... We're supposed to meet up sometime next week, when he's in town... And I'm super excited... He's not so bad on the eyes, and the age difference is not so bad... only 15 years...

Mr Architect

Mr Architect... is a little older, only 39, and is in my city... We've actually been playing tag through emails for a bit, and he's been persistent in meeting me, but I haven't been free to meet him because of other dates and such... He invited me to an upscale rooftop lounge/bar on Saturday, but I declined because I was nervous about heading out there... He didn't know the real reason, and simply agreed to something later on in the week... He's actually very handsome, and the conversations are easy going, and to the point. We haven't talked about a set arrangement yet, but he says he's open to the idea of an allowance... He'd like to meet first... No problem at all...

Mr Fix-It

Mr Fix-It has been my favorite of the three so far... He's older, 49, and a plumber... So far, he's been the most honest, and upfront about everything... He seems like an easy going and fun guy to be around... Not to mention one of his kids lives literally 1 block away from my home... ((ugh!!!)). He's not married, but pays child support to two different women... Despite this, he still is looking for a NSA, but exclusive SB/SD relationship... We talked for hours last night...
*I feel as though, as a SB, it's my job to make my SD or POTs see me as a person to go to to help them feel better... If that means talking to him about his problems, then so be it... By the passing of an hour, he'd told me about all of his life dramas over the last 3 years...But I could tell he felt better afterwards...
We have a date coming this Friday night at Dave and Busters... It should be fun, and not stressful... I can let my hair down, and loosen up a bit, while still feeling him out... Mr Fix-It has no problem with an allowance or shopping trips, etc... His only request was that "I make a list of the things I want from the mall because he hates shopping for more than two hours"...with that I can oblige...

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Along with a schedule filled with dates with POTs, I also have a few non SD dates this week. I don't know why, but  being a part-time SB has tapped into a confidence I left deep somewhere... and I'm loving it...

***I have a date on Thursday with another non SD guy... He's a marine, and my gosh... His body flexes on its own... It's beautiful... I can so see that happening (( :) ))... We have a dinner date for then, and I can't wait to casually touch his arm to feel it...

***Saturday night, I have a date with the guy I met in the cab ride after the movies... He's by far, the one I'm most excited to see, and I hope we hit it off better than we already do... Not to mention, he doesn't live far from me, so I won't have to take a bus, train, boat, and plane to get to him... ((a girl like me does not have a car))

I'm going to do my best, though, not to mix business with pleasure... These non SD guys will have to come second to my SDs as they won't be able to support me how I'm currently looking to be supported... I know some SBs have boyfriends on the side, but that only smells like disaster after a while, to me...

I know that was super long, but I wanted to post the movie info on Saturday when I got home, but I fell asleep on my laptop ((lol)), and I've been too busy to sit around and get to it...

A quick super thanks to the other SBs who don't mind sharing tips and help... I so think it's amazing of you to help me out with answering questions... It feels great to be able to talk to other women about this, and not feel the judgement at all... I love our little community...

**bisous**


-CCSB

First Dates... And How To Deal With Gropers...

So, ladies...

I took Creole's advice and double booked dates yesterday...

Date #1: Cheap and hot...
In the morning, I met up with a new Pot... I call Mr Boondocks...

Mr Boondocks

((If only he looked that good))... Met him on SD.com... He's quite young, and owns his own company... He's tall, and on a 1-10, about a 5... Mr Boondocks straight up looked like a thug... I walked up to him, smiling of course, but thought "Omgosh..." In NYC's 90+ degree weather, homeboy had on an old, white wifebeater, ridiculously long blue jean shorts, and ((wait for it)) Timberland boots...
He said he was cleaning out his old building because he's moved into another.... Whatever... Immediately, my eyes went to his hair... Brother was rocking thin cornrows--but his hairline was about 1 1/2" behind where it should have been... Also, he had at least 3 tattoos covering each square inch of his body. Where did you say you worked, again???
Since he was still at work, and we were meeting for only lunch, he took me to ((wait for it)) Golden Krust... I was in there, and it took me a while to figure out if it was really happening... I ordered a large oxtail (which I knew I wouldn't eat), and played with the food while he talked about his tattoos, his sister, etc etc... I could tell he was nervous... He hardly touched his food...
After about 15 minutes, we left, and I had about 45 minutes to spare before my next date--with Mr SJP... The two of us just walked around the city... We talked about our interests, and quickly realized that we both played tennis. I found that extremely hard to believe. Since we hadn't already discussed any arrangement terms, I figured I'd use this commonality to ease it in... We set our next date to be on the tennis courts, and I brought up the bet... If I beat him in a match (which I will), he takes me shopping... If not, he insisted I make him dinner... All I could think was "you better have a microwave-able meal waiting for you at home"...not happening... He was excited... Mr Boondocks walked me to the train, and paid for my ticket... I got on, and he called once I was gone...
Mr Boondocks explained that he had just gotten out of something long, that ended badly... I expressed sorrow and cut to the chase... I asked him what he was looking for, what he had planned for me and he simply said that he wants to get to know me, and support me...
Something in me is telling me that this guy is looking for a relationship... I will definitely have to make things more black and white between us two... Depending on our next date, I will make that happen.

Date #2: Creepy & A Groper
So, my second date was with Mr SJP... I got off the train, and waited for him... I would have minded the wait, but I used the 30 minutes to get myself together for it. I've gotten plenty of advice that getting there a little early is worth it... Boy, was I in for a surprise...
Mr SJP looked nothing like his photos... He was tall, thin, and really, quite unattractive... On a 1-10 scale, this Pot ranked a serious .5-1... Seriously...
((I've decided to change his photo because the one I had before did him way too much justice...

Mr SJP

Seriously, this is him, ladies... I tried my best not to let it show on my face... Immediately, I could feel his eyes all over me... I knew, that this date was going to be completely different than the first of the day... 
So, I got in his car... Earlier that day, I'd picked up some mace, and a little flip-knife... And we drove to (wait for it) Applebees...  *sigh* On the long drive there, we small talked... He explained that he was more than impressed with my physical appearance, but was a bit angry with me for the conversation we'd had earlier... Mr SJP also tossed the question around us having sex again... I swear ladies, I wanted to throw up in my mouth...

We got to the steakhouse, and I ordered a drink... He claimed he had an alcohol problem, and just got water... The meal was okay, again, I played around with my food, while he complained the whole time...

• It was not hot enough
• It was too spicy
• My plate had more on it than his
• The waiter was flirting with me
• It was too dark
• Why couldn't they change the channel on the damned televisions?

LOL! seriously, ladies... Seriously...
On the way back, he asked me about my sexual preferences, and I let him know... He said he was looking for a very sexually open SB... I however, was not that, but he insisted he could change my mind--and flashed a really crooked smile... All I could think was "if you have all of this money, why can't you get your teeth fixed, at the least?"
 Before I knew what hit me, I felt his ashy hand on my thigh... Ladies, I didn't know what to do... Next, he was pulling down my dress to see the color of my bra... I had to stop him... It was disgusting... Ugh!!!! The whole ride home, he literally begged me to go home with him... "But you're so hot.... Please...??? I'll give you double..." I couldn't believe it... Beyond gross...
Once we got back to the train, I hopped out, and turned my head before he could kiss me.... A smile, and a wave... and he was watching my ass practically run towards the escalator...


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Now, ladies... Help me out here...

1. I am not used to being with men that I am not physically attracted to. I know that I won't find a looker every time, but gosh... Not like this... How do you deal with this? Is it something I'll just have to learn to deal with? 
2. How do I break it onto Mr Boondocks that I am looking for a strict SD/SB relationship. That I don't want to be his girlfriend...? Without jeopardizing my chances at him sprinkling some sugar my way...??? Have you ever experienced a guy like this?
3. What to do with gropers... If he were anyone else, I would have called the police... Was he correct to have done this? Clearly Mr SJP wants sexual favors from me. But I know that there is no way...NO WAY i can have sex with him... no way... I also know that he won't give up any sugar until he gets mine... Should I let this go with him?

-CCSB

Mr SJP wants my Goodies...

I have a date tonight with a Pot... And we've talked about a financial arrangement... We agreed on everything... And then he comes out with a "You know I'm expecting sex on the first date, right?"

I simply said "I don't give up the sugar on the first date. It has to happen naturally".




And he responded with ((and I quote)) "U don't have sex on the first date. I don't give benefits on the first date"...
I asked "So, you're only interested in sex?" and he replies (an hour later)
  "I am not interested in solely sex. I want us to cluck and enjoy time together. However, I am interested in sex. LOL"...

*sigh*

I'm obviously not going tonight... But this is getting to be so frustrating... Sugar Babes aren't escorts... We're not prostitutes... So why must we get this nonsense.

Is it because I have yet to find a quality SD? What happened to just the dating part? I'm open to having fun, flirting, dating, dining... But sex??? You're on the wrong site buddy...

I knew this wouldn't be easy--finding a quality SD... I also didn't think that there'd be so many guys out there looking for easy, cheap p***y... I'm not down with giving up my diamonds for money... There has to be a connection... attraction... SOMETHING...

It's just really annoying, because I need some GUAP asap... Gonna hit up my other Pot and see what he's doing tonight...


***And what is it with this texting??? It drives me crazy... I prefer a short, sweet, to-the-point phone call... "Where are we going?" "What time?" "Where shall I meet you?" etc etc etc... Precise and done... Instead I get short, choppy, not consistent text messages that all amount to more confusion... "Hey" "Hi" "So..." "What's up?" "Yea tonight?" "Huh?" "Yeah, okay".... And these all come in different time intervals.... 1 minute.. 45 minutes... 3 minutes...

I'm going to toss the next phone I see into the nearest puddle of water...

-CCSB

If At First You Don't Suceed...

Aaliyah sang it best... My date with Mr SJP--I was so excited about it... And nothing...

I sent him an email, expressing my regards, and such... And he told me "I was there at 7pm, and I waited 30 minutes for you... I was very angry"...

When I read that I 1)laughed 2)shook my head...

The poor guy waited for me... But our date was scheduled for 8PM... He was so sorry and sent tons of apologies, etc... So, lucky for me... We're trying this again, and this time... I'm not letting the time get in the way... Not only will I be checking in the day before, but the day of, and a few hours before the date... I really did like him too...

We have set our next rendezvous for this coming Tuesday evening... Only thing is, he wants me to come to Jersey City... I live in NYC... Some say it isn't far from there, but it's where I'm going from there that's got me concerned... So, I'm supposed to ride the train out to Jersey, and then what? Get in your car? I don't think so... My last blog was just about these safety precautions... How do you ladies think I should go forth with this... I'll be so out of my way, and definitely not knowing the area... I'm going to ask what he has in mind, so I can find directions myself, but it just makes me wonder a bit... Let me know your thoughts, ladies...

-CCSB

Late, For a Very Important Date...

***Big Sigh***

So, I rushed on home from work... I pulled 9+ hours today, and somehow,y my boss didn't pay anyone, so I was already kind of off... Then, I had to stay an extra 45 minutes at work... Every one I was counting... I didn't want to be late for my first date with Mr SJP... I practically ran home, and changed. Called my friend over ((I decided to bring her with me.. for safety... She wouldn't be sitting with us, but just around--inconspicuously))...

I called, and spoke to Mr SJP the night before, to confirm, and he simply told me to call him an hour before I left to meet him... The meeting time was 8pm...

Not only was it ridiculously humid, but, somehow, torrential rains came down to wash the earth... I sucked it up, grabbed a HUGE umbrella and ran out in my mini skirt...

I nearly fell into a swimming pool of nasty NYC sewage water, and finally got on the train, to head to the city to him...

I called..... ...... ...... No answer... I shrugged it off.... Maybe he was just on his way...
I called, again... ... ... Still, no answer... Hmm... I thought... Hmmm...
I called, 5 more times.... .... .... and got no answer from him.
No text message, no voicemail... Suddenly, this Mr SJP was a figment of my imagination.

My train got delayed a few minutes, and I ended up being 26 minutes late. When I got to the coffee shop, there was no one there that fit his description... I sat, and waited... and called, and hung up, and waited...

Eventually, I gave up hope, defeated, and embarrassed... Mr SJP had stood me up... Or maybe, he didn't like late-comers... I was so confused... and defeated... and embarrassed... I was so excited to meet him...

I left the coffee shop, now in the city, with no plans, and a friend who'd witnessed my epic fail... We went to a deli, and ordered some food... And I thought... "Hmmm... let's try..."

I called another pot SD, that I knew worked nearby, and he picked up almost immediately. I asked him if he was free, and he was so excited to be meeting me... I admit, I put him on the spot, but I was feeling the burn from the first guy... He told me to "hang out for 30 min or so and he'd come to get me..."...

So, i waited... and ate... and sighed... and called Mr SJP again... to no prevail... And I sighed, and waited... The time somehow passed from 9-~10 pm... How did 30 minutes turn into never...???

Fact is, I got stood up... twice, in one night... by two pot SDs, that I'd never met before... Around 1am, when I was nearing my home on the train, I got a message from this pot SD... He apologized for not following through, and blamed it on a dead phone...

Ladies... *sigh*

I know this better be the worst it gets... I am s bummed about tonight...

-A sad CCSB

Safety PreCaution : Does it Ever Occur To You...???

I am fairly new to this entire experience, and though I am seriously enjoying myself, I have to wonder... Have I, or must I let go of all those things my parents taught me when I was young...???

• Don't talk to strangers
• If you're meeting someone off the internet, bring a friend, and meet in a public area
• Don't get into a stranger's car

Those are just a few, but already I feel as though I've thrown some out of the window... For instance, one of my POT SD's has offered to pick me up to take me somewhere...
1) I have never met him before... Why should I get into his car?
2)Where is this somewhere?


Again, these are just a few questions that have come to mind since I've begun on this beautiful journey... But it just makes me wonder... Have I lost my ability to take caution? Does the taboo of being a SB, and the need to keep our meetings private make trusting these strangers any more safe?

I'm not knocking anyone down, I'm simply asking for advice... I understand that it's just like meeting anyone in a bar, or at school... You'd get into a car, to go on a date with a guy you met there, right? But what is it about meeitng men online, that raises the red flags?


LADIES... I call upon you... My (SCABIW) SB Council of Amazingly Beautiful and Intelligent Women... Let me know, of the safety precautions you take when meeting your POT SDs. If anything, God forbid, has happened to you... Advice or tips... I think it's important to discuss... because we value our lives, and need to be safe...


-CCSB

Crossing The Lines

I got an offer from a pot SD... He came out, upfront and asked me to "audition" sexually, to me his SB. He said he was more than gracious with gifts, and allowance... Naturally, it had be quite taken aback... I feared this was nearing the lines of escorting... At first, I figured I'd lead him on, just collecting as I went, but Mr Vegas (that's what he insisted I call him) had other plans in mind...

He called me earlier tonight, through my Google Voice #, and quickly expressed how he only wanted me for sex... He kept telling me how much people thought him to be handsome... He bragged about his job, and how important he was. Mr Vegas blatantly asked me to do the following:

1. Tell him how many sexual partners I'd had (I lied...)
2. Meet him in midtown Manhattan
3. Get in his amazing company car
4. Have a few drinks in this company car--as we would ride to a disclosed area
5. Make sure to specifically wear red lingerie, and fishnets... -_-
6. "Have fun" with him for a few hours
7. Take a train back into NYC and then to my home

And this jackass wants all of this done for a (and I quote) "few hundred dollars"...

Oh lord... I simply told the ass I'd accept nothing lower than $5k... He flipped... I bid him a great night, and that was that...

***Ladies, I am not opposed to sex with a SD, but simply having sex for less than I'd make at my regular, part-time job is simply out of the question...

-CCSB

Off To A Great Start

Being that I've only started my new career less than a month ago, I'd say I'm doing quite well... I'm learning something new everyday, and am surrounded by a great support system...

Be that as it may, I've got news... A new POT.... Mr Samoyed.... ((He's got the cutest little Samoyed dog--I fell in love with her right away))... Met him on SD.com. It wasn't even a real connection right away... His profile was bare, with just the basics... I shot him and email, and WHAM! There he was, in my personal email... ((I just changed my name and info, too--whew!))

Mr Samoyed

He's 36, slim, and balding... But he's not too bad on the eyes... Says he's from Australia... and he loves black women... Woot Woot!!! We've been playing tag through emails, and I think we'd hit it off well... Lucky for me, he came out with it, and said he wasn't looking for a relationship... I told him what I wanted... what I didn't want... But he offered something even better... Less commitment, for more $$ ((I never knew it'd be so simple))... He's coming down to NYC in two weeks. He's requested that I leave an entir week scheduled for me, and he's offering double (in that week), what I asked for monthly... uh... Yeah... lol...

So that gives me time to practice with Mr SJP for a bit... *Don't forget, ladies, my first date with him is tomorrow, evening... Still fretting about it... Nervous... But feeling better because you all are helping me out...

I took Creole's advice and got myself a LBB... And the DIY maven in me just had to do something with the ugly cover it had before...

Before

After

-CCSB

Box o Sweets....

I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU to the women who have reached out to help me... You ladies are so sugary sweet... I only hope that we continue to get close and learn from one another...

My First Ever Pot

***So, I am so new to this all, but everyday I am getting more and more interested in the life of it all... So I set up an acct on SD.com, and in two weeks, I've been chatting with 2 prospects... I have set up a date with Mr SJP. 38, and running his own trading system company... I'm not picky, but from his photos, he's not the best looking guy in the world. His voice, though, made him so much cuter... We talked, and set up a date for this coming Friday... Very casual... Of course I'll dress it up a little for him... He caught that I spoke French, and told me some very naughty things. The only thing is that he asked about my terms on the agreement. I seriously freaked out, and simply told him that I was more into getting to know him--building chemistry first... Idk...

Mr SJP

How am I supposed to get it out there without sounding harsh, and not classy??? Please, ladies, let me know. Time's running out, and he seriously wants to know...

I've got some questions about it all...

1. What should I wear to a casual date...? It's going to be at a coffee shop...
2. How do I act around him? I mean, I want him to know I'm into him, right? Just help me here...
3. How do I let him know how much I want? Is it only a weekly, or monthly allowance... What about gifts, etc... a wishlist... Am I going to fast for this being my first date?

Ladies, he's my first potential SD, and he seems easy to get along with--over the phone. But I'd hate for nerves and lack of knowledge to hide my true, spunky, cute wit and good looks. Please, I'm so looking for answers.

***Also, I've tried to comment on a few pages, but something about the Google word verification thing isn't working for me... How can I reach out to you ladies for help???


-CCSB

Welcome & Thank you

So, hello, ladies.... You all have been so helpful in my quest to become a SB... I decided, I'd create another blog just for it... ((please to ignore the horrible layout for now--i will get on that)). But so far, I've been addicted to the idea of being a sugar babe for about 2 months now... I'm 21, and in college... I'm also working 2 jobs, on top of all of my other extra curricular activities. Living at home just ices my cupcake...
I'd love some excitement, the independence ((from my folks)), and best of all--the SUGAH!!!

I've set up an account on SD.com and am thinking about other sites for now. I havent gotten much response. But I'm putting in the work...

I actually have a potential date with a pot this coming Friday... I know usually one isn't attracted to these guys, but he really isn't attractive. I think I'm too fresh to be picky, you know...

Taking summer classes for now, and it's my last week, so after Thursday, I'll be free to put 100% into this... Thanks in advance for all the advice...

-CCSB